I am a mess. Now I have to give up my cat Oliver. I can no longer give him a good home as I am homeless. My son will not take him because his wife does not like cats. I am so filled with grief I just can't bear to part with him. I have been looking at bridges to jump off with oliver or freeways to run on with oliver. We need to go together. I can't take this anymore. Oliver and I are hot and tired and I am so sick. Please I have to go I wish you all well.
i know the pain and the will to die is great. hold on one more day.
see if a local shelter will home him. Idk where you are but some shelters are no-kill. I understand how you feel, though, I always felt if I were to take myself out I would take my dog too, because I didn't think anyone else would take care of her. Eventually she passed so now I just have a stuffed animal & that is better for my peace of mind
i will pray for your souls.
I'm pretty sure Oliver doesn't want to die. I'm sure he's come to trust you and love you and know that you would never do anything to hurt him. Do you really want to break that trust and take his life away? I think it's clear you love Oliver very much. You're letting your pain cloud what is best for him.
I don't think you really want to kill Oliver. He is like a child to you, isn't he? Sometimes when a child's parent isn't doing so well it's best for the child to live with someone else. As a parent, that is painful for you to be separated from your child, but it's what is best. I know you love Oliver far too much to do him harm. There is always someone willing to take in a sweet kitty like that, maybe even foster him until you're in a position to care for him again, and there's always a place where someone who's down on their luck can get back up again. So no bridges, no highways just one step forward at a time, my friend.
Surfgirl, You don't want to die... I know you are in pain but people that want to die to offer to support other people in pain as you did for me this morning. You and Oliver have a life ahead of you it is just in a big fog right now. Look for a shelter to help you even if you aren't religious; it will be a start. Have you worked in the past, if so find a job get yourself busy. There is always a reason why the joys and sorrows come to us. Someone out there needs you just as much as you need them but you have to be ready for them. Come on girl, you have to be a Good person to offer someone you don't know support!
@surfgirl
So glad you and your kitty have a place to go…
thank goodness! how are you feeling?
@surfgirl please reach out to someone--your loved one would not want you to hurt yourself
I understand I am a widow too
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