I am a mom of a Heroin user and I need help communicating with her. She has shut me out. any advise would be appreciated.
Unfortunately she is just not in place where she is ready to hear from you, she will have to reach that point where she is open to help. As a mom I am heart broken you are going through this!
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Do I keep trying? I want her to know I love her.....
She is afraid and ashamed. Yesterday, for the first time I asked my mom to come over and I told her everything- tears were going. It was one of the hardest things I have ever done. It is scary- you are so used to being reprimanded. Everyone says it is a choice- and it is- but only the first time. There is a horrible stigma and it makes you feel awful about yourself. The best you can do is give her space but make sure she knows you love her no matter what.
Thank you so much for that. I send her text messages as she won't answer my calls.
I really want to attempt to understand what her thoughts are so that I can be there for her. I do know that I personally cannot help her but I want her to understand that I would love to be a part of her recovery when she is ready. She has 3 children one of which lives with her. I just want them to be able to grow up with her in their lives. It is truly a pain I don't understand.
@wandam - Answers lie in her past history, the way one is raised, genetic links play a role or traumatic experiences, those would be the places to explore, talking to her while she’s in a “fog” will go no where. Continue being proactive in grandkids lives, they need a lot of stable role models so they don’t repeat bad past history, kids learn what they grow up in.