Well i came to san francisco to visit my dad and i picked him up from rehab, and then had a great 2 days with him but hes going through alot at the moment , and last night oh my thought i was going to explode he said i want a beer i said no no. then hegets very rude i have dont so much for him, and i am getting frustrated my edd wants to pick up huge and i feel very hurt after i feel not apprciated what i did.. I feel the rest of my family upset cuz i am helping my dad, which they didnt think i hsould.. so i am on a battle... trying to fight this,, i been living in az alone and no longer want to live there i wantt o move back to oc where my mom sister and brothers are... I dont htinki could live with my dad and he wants me to but i worry as he will be here alone. and drink.. but thtas his choice not mine. I am battling htis disease so much as i feel huge.. .. If you drink i am out of here and will disowned u as my dad i came out here to help.... i just dont get it i do so much then like hes like if blah blah blah then leave... my ed just haunting me away hard.. and i am here till sunday oh my... what do i do
Hi there, your feelings of wanting to help your father are so natural and wonderful, please know that you are doing this from your heart and therefore, no one should judge you for it. Focus on your time there with your father, but also break it up by getting outside and getting some fresh air. Are you near any cafes where you can go and read or can you take a nice walk outside? You need a break from your father and you need to take a bit of time for yourself. As well, think about and plan how you can move to the OC and start working towards that. I've felt in a total rut, but it wasn't until I started planning and setting goals, as well as working towards those goals slowly but surely that I started to feel so much better. Lay out your timeline and goal of moving to the OC and take small steps everyday to work towards that. You will see what a world of difference it will make.
thank u for the positive vibes ur a god sent
We sometimes find ourselves wanting to heal and forget about ourselves. I want you to know that helping your father is a great thing, he will try and be tough and ask for the drink. You have to be tougher and say no everytime. He knows you love him but thar drink is so mean in how it gets us to believe it can solve problems and lift us. I wish you well and hopes he knows you love hime. Stay well
have you gone ot Alanon? it has doen wonders for me in relating to my soon to be ex husband.