I am feeling so hopeless, sad, angry and everything else in-between. I’m 34 and my partner of 20 years and the only man I’ve ever been with told me in January he wasn’t happy. I’ve tried everything to make him happy and to feel love for me again. He’s just told me that he has been having an affair with a younger woman he met on tinder and is leaving me and our six year old for her and we have to sell the house etc. I feel like I’ve been living on my nerves since January and I feel so defeated, disgusting, unwanted. I’m putting ok a brave face for my daughter but I’m dying inside. Is there light at the end of the tunnel? How do you date when you’ve got a mom bod with saggy skin and stretch marks? I’m working with a PT to feel more body confident but I don’t know if I’ll ever feel comfortable to ever date again. Although dating is a long way off of course.
I'm not married, but what I can tell you is that you are desired and worth so much love and compassion. There's millions of guys to date and you'll soon meet the right one. It only takes time.
@KidDJ… thank you for your kind and compassionate response. I hope you’re right. Just wish the feelings inside my chest and stomach would go away but I’m sure in time they will. Thank you again 
I'm sorry to hear about what you're going through. First off, I would just like to say that your husband doesn't deserve you. I'm sure you're a very beautiful woman even with the mom bod. Honestly my tip for you would be to just let the grieving process pass by. When you're ready to date again, go for it. And don't lose confidence. Not that it matters because you'd be pretty either way, but from what I've read online, most guys don't even really care about that stuff.
Take care of yourself, and keep being the brave and great mother that you are. I wish you luck.
@RedBeldam thank you. You’re totally right, I do need to go through the grieving process before I even consider dating. Like he has moved on and found someone and that’s a hard pill to swallow. I’ve never been “alone” for 20 years and now it’s like I don’t have many friends to turn to and I feel really isolated. But time is a great healer as they say. Thank you for your kind words and encouragement. I really appreciate them.
Hi Lola. Really sorry you are going through what you are. That is painful to be set aside by someone you trusted and counted on. I know people make mistakes and heaven knows I have made many in my life, but if this man was willing to trade his wife and family for a "Ho" that he found on a hookup site, what does that say about him? It is pretty clear that he is pretty shallow and doesn't go very far beyond the surface. I guess to echo what others have said, and it seems that you agree, just go through this grieving process. It is a tough experience, but you'll be the better for it in the long run. My second piece of advice is to have faith in God to not only get you through this, but He will lead you to the right person at the right time, if you let him. Someone that will love you for you, see the beauty and intelligence in you, and will be wise enough to realize that these sacks of skin we live in aren't who we are, and that they don't last forever before they age, wrinkle, sag, etc lol. I hope you are able to stay strong and persevere.
@Jack007 thank you. You’re so right. I guess when we are in the thick of our problems. We can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you for your kind words and the encouragement. I really appreciate it
That really sucks what happened to you. I actually feel the same way going through a very similar experience. I feel like I can no longer even access what were the best memories I had because of the betrayal. I don't know how get back to normal. If you need to talk I am here also. stay strong.
@SoloDad I am so sorry that you have went through something similar to myself. It is gut wrenching experience. My heart goes out to you. I understand the feelings you are experiencing and not knowing how to get back to normal. I feel the same way. If you need to vent or anything send me a messages. Thank you for taking the time to reach out and keep your head up. I hope things get better for the both of us.
I'm sorry to hear that you're going through that mess. You're still kind of young, much younger than me. I can see how you would think that way, but our bodies come with a service life, and aging is a process that everyone goes through. The eyes are the most deceitful instruments in existence. If a guy is only interested in you because of your body and physical appearance, then, you're looking in the wrong place, and found the wrong person for you. Everyone's different, and each person looks for different qualities. There are guys who do like the dedicated mom type of woman because the relationship is more stable with a solid foundation, and because it's indicative of family values and selfless compassion, not to mention that as a single mom, you would be exceptional at multi-tasking and very responsible. I'm sure there's someone in the World who is an ideal companion and lover for you, but you just need to look in the right place, and be patient without jumping into it right away.
@FreeWill2Go thank you for your kind words. Your are right. It’s just hard to keep positive with everything that’s going on at the moment. Thank you. I appreciate you taking the time to respond