I am finding it very hard to stay focused on my one year goa

I am finding it very hard to stay focused on my one year goal of working on myself. I just want to relax and do nothing and find a relationship. I get so tired of being alone, but I know I need to do this, it's just so horrible of a process.

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It'll be a big undertaking, that's obvious, so try not to feel too down when things don't seem to be progressing as much as you'd like them to. You already made a big decision to try this, just make sure you praise yourself for every step you take towards that goal, and don't beat yourself up for any time it may seem to stall. You'll do plenty of good things in this year for yourself, make sure you notice them. And if you ever have trouble with that, let us know and we'll be sure to point the good things out to you :)

I am having that issue now. All I feeling now is loneliness and not the successes that I have made.

Not sure if it'll work for you, but back when I was trying CBT, I had trouble recognizing any accomplishment I made in my life, big or small. I was told to start writing down every positive thing I had done in the pursuit of bettering myself, and then put up in a wall so I could see and add to it each day. It can surprise you, looking over such a list, at all the things you've actually done... So even if you don't feel like you're doing well, you'll have evidence proving otherwise to shove in your own face, it's what I did.

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I have 5 poster boards on my bedroom wall with different things on them. One of them I hadn't decided what to put on it yet, that sounds like a very good idea to me! ;)

@ShadowMe2 I’m very glad to hear that, I hope it helps you in your goal :slight_smile:

I think it really will. Thank you very much for the idea! ;)

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