I am good so far and the dust has settled once again. Thanks to this group I am gaining on strength. So today something strange happened and you all can be honest with me if I am in the wrong here. I gifted a lady a purse so she came to pick it up this morning. My husband gave her the brown bag with the purse in it. Later when driving to pick my car up from repair he ask me what he had given to the lady. So I told him in the brown bag was a purse that I didn't liked anymore. So I proceeded to tell him that I bought it at the Mall but it slipped down on me to many times and that's why I gifted it. So He say's that he didn't wanted to know all the ins and the outs, just the facts. It was a hit on my head because I thought him and I had a conversation. It is like being interrogated all the time, just give me the answer I am looking for and after that shut up......you know....how strange. And I said to him, that I thought we had a conversation. How odd he is I said to him. Any thoughts on it are appreciated.
Emotional abuse, as well as physical is part of my past, but I carry it forward in my inner critic as I have internalized things from other than can bring me down. I am looking to lean from people who have the same experience and how they have been able to stop the self blaming and self criticism, as this is really victim blaming on my part.
I think that's normal sharing. He has the right to say "Too much information", but that's about it imo. If he's in a bad mood and snapped this, he should apologize when he realizes it (if not on the spot, at least I do that). It could still be a bad day for him (do you know?). Trying my best to see his side by the way. Personally, I think I would have said "No need for details, just wondering which one" early on and that's it. If I really didn't want to hear it that is. I generally would love my ex telling me stuff.
Nope that is just how he is all the time
Sounds like my ex narc then, letting you do the sharing then using it against you after over reacting. Are you seeing other signs of narc or emotional abuse?
I am new to the facts of narc's therefore I am still trying to figure things out, like this thing that just happened this week. My goodness if I go with him in the car , God forbid he tells me how to drive and where to drive. Control and put downs all the way until we are there. This is the worst mind you, I can't go anywhere with the guy because I can't stand this behaviour. There is so much more which I am seeing now and coming to terms with. So time will tell.
Take your time to figure out and be sure. You need to understand it and fully realize what is at stake for your resolve to be strong enough. I know what you mean. If I go shopping without her, I am happy. If I go with her, it's HELL.
LOL we seem to be in the same boat...
Well, I am no longer with her for over 5 weeks now. Relationship was over months before. I hope you reach that stage and stop the abuse.
You have no idea how many times I told myself;"that's it."
But because I am in a bad financial position and over fifty, I can't bring myself to jump into the deep end.
@Faith52 That’s perfectly rational and more than I can say for my ex. She jumped into the deep end without a penny. Start making your exit plan even if you end up worse in quality of living. No price is too great for your freedom and sanity.