I am in a tough one and I would appreciate any help. I have

I am in a tough one and I would appreciate any help. I have had sex with around 16-17 woman in my life and another 8-9 escorts or massage ladies.

I would say I lost an erection a minute or two into the sex probably 10 times and once or twice couldn't even get it up. But I never had that issue with the escorts I always stayed hard.

My whole life I always had crushes on woman masterbated to woman etc, although I never had a girlfriend and was always shy. I have at the very least made out with over 70 girls.
But around 5-6 years my porn got boring and I wasn't into it and then I got into incest porn( even though the thought of that I would never do in real life). Soon that got boring and I got into shemale porn, hard, very hard. I remember the first time I saw a pic of a Shemale I was disgusted, I got so into it that the mere thought of one in my head wild I've me a full on erection.

After time I couldn't hold it in so I finaly acted out with one. that led to me acting out around 20 times with shemales and I did everything imaginable, I always felt disgusted as soon as I ejaculated though. The one thing that scared me though is I never once had erection issues with a shemale I would be hard as a rock almost instantly, sometimes on the car ride over.

Last year I stopped watching porn and masterbating entirely for almost two months. The shemale desires to act out waned ( I'm sure I was still attracted to them) and I got semi erections texting or holding hands with woman two or three times , even had a wet dream or two, although once was a shemale.

Now for the past year I have had hocd ( I hope it's that) bad. Everytime I see a guy it's simply me judging them. I feel like all this could lead up to me being gay? Even though I never had a thought of that growing up and was semi disgusted at thought of kissing man. I've never had an erection to a man or wanted to kiss a man, but the problem now it's like before I could judge a man and be like I'm jealous he gets girls, now it's like I freak out and am like do I secretly want him?

That's the biggest freak out, when I notice a good looking guy, it's freaky now cuz before I wouldn't even blink twice , now when I notice one it drives me nuts and makes my thoughts go crazy. Also I get so nervous around woman now, I don't know if I want them or I want to want them.

Thoughts please ?!

Hi, i think what fuels your (h)OCD is the fact that tour addiction to porn wired your brain to look for "new" and "taboo" things because, if you do something in excessive amounts, it finally can get boring. Your record of kissing and sex with women suggests that you previously enjoyed straight sex, which doesn't sound very gay to me, even though most men can loose an erection at some point, it's not an abnormal thing. The thoughts OCD sends are not rational, so fighting them is pointless. The only way you can get better, in my opinion and experience, is to get help from a therapist. You can be afraid that they'll tell you that you are really gay, but that is not the case. If they are specialists in OCD, they'll know how to help you.

@NicoGZ Check some articles about hocd and shemale porn at a site called yourbrainonporn.com

Thanks man, it's like I need constant insurance that I'm straight and every time I see a good looking man I freak out

Stop seeking reassurance. That is also an attitude that makes the HOCD stronger. Watch the videos of Eddy Defoe and Mark Freeman in youtube.

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i will only assure you once but being attracted to shemales is very common among straight men. I mean, they look like women so why wouldn't you? Shemale porn is one of the most popular out there. People have all kinds of sexual fetisch, has nothing to do with sexuality.

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Yes but it almost seemed like I became obsessed with the penis and doing and acting out homosexual acts with the ******

Search for porn addiction articles in yourbrainonporn.com
here are some of them, paste the url into the url bar:

http://yourbrainonporn.com/ask-us-iam-attracted-to-gay-transsexual

http://yourbrainonporn.com/can-you-trust-your-johnson

http://yourbrainonporn.com/straight-men-gay-porn-and-other-brain-map-mysteries

http://www.yourbrainonporn.com/age-21-porn-induced-ed-hocd-and-vagina-phobia-finally-cured-after-years

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@NicoGZ Only read the last one; i like how he talked about using your senses

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