I am just wondering why, when you actually get the courage t

Mental Health Mental & Physical Abuse
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I am just wondering why, when you actually get the courage to do so, do people ask the question how old were you when your abuse stop? And why did you wait so long?

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Human curiosity has no bounds, you should only answer questions you feel comfortable with, anything outside your comfort zone, simply tell them, "I am sorry, but that isn't something I am willing to share or elaborate on." Hugs!

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People have no understanding about the dynamics in an abusive relationship. Incest survivors often feel powerless during the abuse. That was very insensitive for them to ask.

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I am working so hard trying to put all of that behind me but I'm finding that it's gotten into every aspect of my life. Most of the ridiculous questions like that came from my ex. of one month.
It took me 37yrs living in an abusive in every way marriage to figure out just how much it affects your life. I can put my mind at ease better about the sexual abuse when I was a child by telling myself that I was too young to understand. But what I cannot put to rest is why as a grown-up I allowed myself to be abused for my entire marriage. I have so much guilt over what went on and what I put my kids through. I am struggling so much with that. I don't know how to handle all of that.

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@sasymay Hi sasymay, Abuse is such an ‘All’ encompassing, overwhelming experience to go through whatever ‘age’ you are… It finds a way to intertwine itself into every fibre of your being and, you life… You can only ever do, the best you can, with ‘Any’ given situation at the time… There is always, such a ‘Stigma’ related to Sexual Abuse or indeed, any kind of Abuse… I understand where you are coming from and am here, anytime, whether you want to talk, vent, write whatever’s in your head (regardless, if it makes sense or not). You can PM me anytime to. Sent with love, Trish x

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I think I would have an honest talk with your children. Let them know you feel badly about the past. People often feel trapped in adult relationships that are abusive and don't see a way out. Guilt is a hard thing to live with. I deal with it also. Some days you just can't get away from it.