for the last 5 years I have tried to be strong, but I need help of people that have gone through the same thing.
5 years ago my husband cheated on me and left me and our then 15 month old daughter. she is now 7 and he has seen her once... now he has a baby with the homewrecker, although according to him, they had broken up about a year ago... he does not pay childsupport and is not willing to pay for the divorce. I am at my wits end, all I want is to be happy and make my beautiful girl happy. he gets to me each time I get a nasty e-mail from him.
It feels good to write this and knowing that there are people that understand. Thank you for letting me be part of this. I suppose I just need to hear that it will get better and that Karma will do it's job...
I'm only fifteen sadly,
and i dont know if what im saying is going to be of any help..
i dont have as much experience as an adult but i think you need block him from at least the internet
and make a fresh start
i know its not as easy as it sounds
but getting him out of your life would probably be for the best. itd be a good start.
good luck <3
i understand the cheating though..
certainly understand that :/
almostthere Welcome, glad you let your feelings out with what your experiencing w/the ex from what you describe he sounds very immature/self absorbed as alot of people are sometimes, is wise to not read his emails & focus only on you & your beautiful daughter. Am sure you would not want someone like this to impact her life later down the road as that would only open up a whole other can of worms for her w/wondering why she not good enough or whatever other problems like this causes under these circumstances as it sounds apparent that hes trying to keep people on the side & carrot dangle so hes not alone but yet has no ones elses best interest at heart but his own. Would be wise to cut him off & save all from a never ending emotional cycle. We're here to talk with when you feel like it, we're listening.
Take care of you.
April
Kafween, good advice smart girl keep it up.
April and Kafween, thank you so much for your words and advice. I know he is far from mature, even his parents regret what he has done. It does not always seem fair that people whom are hurting others get to walk around without any consequences...
But I will try to keep him out of our lifes, I do agree with April that this is healthier for both my little one and myself...
For the 1st time in a very long time I can let this all out and know that there are people that understand and not just tell you to keep your chin up...
Trust me what goes around WILL come to back to him one way or the other just be very thankful your not directly involved w/his on going bad choices hes still making & will one day regret, am sure you will find relief later on that you DODGED A BULLET :-) & your daughter will grow up so much better having such a wonderful strong encouraging mother that raised her & when shes older she will be so proud of the way you handled yourself/situation & her by not letting this continue into either one of your futures.
Its alot of toxic crap he spreading & probably doesnt even see it yet.
thank you april (:
and i am so glad we have all found this site
it truly is helpful being surrounded by people who understand
even on the internet
stay strong guys <3
If it is a no-fault divorce, you can get the forms online and it wouldn't cost very much. It may be easier for you if you just get it over with. I am new here as well. I am just seperating from my husband of 3 years who keeps lying and meeting women online, but he swears he hasn't physically cheated. i don't believe it. you don't rent a hotel room to chat!
Good luck to you.
Quit wasting your valuable time here on earth on these losers. I know how alone and crazy you all feel because I've been on the rollercoaster for over 20 years. I'm 48 and alone while he's decided to start dating! Hello- we may be separated but we are married! He refuses couples counseling and quit his individual therapy! God is pushing me toward a path I never wanted to go down- divorce. But i must, for my sanity. My two teens are very supportive of my decision tk move forward, it's just so hard to take that step off the cliff. HELP!!!