I am a drug addict in recovery and this makes me want to use again! I feel as if my life has only just started but now it is over. I recently self harmed after finding out. What if I never find anybody who will love me when they find out I have this disease? Advice please!
oh honey, you know as soon as you start to do better, there are always setbacks to try to discourage you, but DON'T YOU FALL FOR IT! I have a couple of close friends, I am almost 50 yrs. old, who have had herpes for years. They are wonderful people and it was not the end of the world, They use medication and avoid partners when they have outbreaks. She told me that when she is stressed is when it would show up, so try to limit your stress and take your meds for it.. anyway, it did not stop her from having several really nice boyfriends and she was honest with all of them. She is now married to a really great guy and has two kids, Of course some one will love you! Some of us have way more harmful things like cancer or something that could kill you. You'll find once you learn to trust people that you just have something that you can control and take care of when you need to. Be thankful you don't have a disease you can die from. If I loved someone, it wouldn't matter to me, we would just protect ourselves when needed, but true love won't care about something that you can't control... anyway, don't SI yourself over something that is not your fault? How could you have known sweety? So stick with your program and keep on your path, be proud and hold your head up for having SURVIVED LIFE! You are beautiful and we all have somethng we worry about, we all have what we view as flaws, but hold that head up high and proud. We love you and we care, what you do and who your are is what defines you! ok, take care-Julz
ok i'm just a guy, but you didn't ask for it and there are ways to live with it. And there will be a guy that will love you for you. I'm old enough to be your dad but i think once you get used to the disease. and learn about it you will find life easier. Hell they advertise medicines all the time on TV to control herpies.
Now i am going to play dad, NEVER EVER HURT YOURSELF AGAIN.
So be good to yourself ok?
I too am a recovering addict, and was diagnosed when i was 17, i actually got hooked on pain meds because of my terrible out breaks, i also self harmed when i first started getting out breaks because i felt so bad about myself. It is so tough being diagnosed with GH when you are a teen, i felt really alone. But you would be surprised about how it affects SO many adults and teens. Check and see if there are any herpes support groups in your area. And if you haven't been to a meeting in a while, if you do 12 step, then that might be a good idea. Meetings always give me a lift, good luck dear i know what you are going through and if you ever need to message me.
Best Regaurds
I recently caught herpes from a boyfriend of 3 years. he left after an arguement but was texting saying he loved me, missed me, and was in a deep dark place. I thought i would give him time. 2 weeks later he came back to pick things up from the flat. We ended up having unprotected sex. He promised there was noone else. a few days later I started feeling uncomfortable and knew something wasnt rite. i text to ask should i be worried about anything? he got back 2 days later even tho he had been to the GUM clinic 2 days previous to tell me that he had had a one night stand the following week and had contracted herpes. I was devastated! He has since tried to get back, but admited that he is still in a relationship with the girl who gave him herpes in the first place! I threw him out and he threatened to kill himself......im now feel that my future is doomed. How can i explain to a new partner that i have this? What will they think of me? Im very sore still and just not rite down there. Im dealing with all of this grief, betrayal, crazy texts and what feels like mental torture from my ex plus dealing with this disease