I am ready to end my marriage but I need support and I just don't have that. I am feeling so overwhelmed right now.
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I'm sorry. I can listen.
Thank you for listening. I've been wanting to end this marriage for 3 years because of his infidelity but he refuses to go. He does not work, I am the breadwinner and I don't know how difficult this is going to be for me if I divorce him. Sometimes I want to run away from everything. But I don't want to leave my kids, they are all I live for. I feel there is so much to do to even start, bank accounts, bills, etc.. Where do I begin?
@Ev70 At least you are the breadwinner and have that advantage.
Yes, you're right. I just need to get up and clear my head and get started on what I need to do to get this divorce started once and for all. Maybe I should make a list of what I need to do.
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@Ev70 I would see a lawyer and get all your ducks in a row.
Thank you. I am going to search for one right now. I can't think of anyone I can ask for a referral right at this moment.
Thanks again.
@Ev70 Anytime
Here to listen and am following your story. You are brave and courageous. Here for support anytime.
@yogini17
Than you, I sure do appreciate your words and support.
I feel a little guilty because my parents live with us since they cannot afford rent on their own but I really just don't want to live with anyone right now. I just want it to be me and my kids. I feel like I'm working for everyone else's needs. I just want to be free of everyone else; parents, husband. I want to start a new life with only my kids. I think that is where I feel the most overwhelmed.
Is there another sibling that your parents could live with or somewhere else your parents could live? Hoping you will be able to work something out so you can have the fresh start you want :)
Yes, my sister is within 20 minutes but I just don't know how to bring it up to her. I guess I'm just going to have to start with "I'm getting a divorce". I don't really want to tell family and friends until it's in the process but I guess I'm going to have to at least tell her and my parents. I just hope my mother doesn't try to convince me to work on the marriage like she has before.
That sounds like a good idea. Try a heart to heart with your sister and explain you need her help and support . tell your mother you tried and you're done and now you have to do what is best for you!
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Get an attorney. That is the first thing. The attorney will give you a list of documents that they will need. Pay check stubs, previous taxes, any bills and loans you have. I know how hard this decision is and your journey has just begun. If you think it is best to ask your sister to help with your parents then do so. You have to do what is best for you and your kids. Please check back with the site to let us know how you are doing. Good luck!
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Thank you all. I talked to a good friend at work and she reminded me that a former co-worker of ours if now a practicing family/divorce attorney. I'm going to try to get in touch with him.
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