I am really upset right now and it had been gaining speed since Monday memorial day . fist off my second brother offered me a couch and then offered to put it in my trailer. I had at least three hours to clean up the trailer and make it ready for them to put it in. ( I have been working on my house since 8:30-9: that morning I can't do everything and really did not know what needed to be done. i walked back to my house and began cleaning the floor and moving things around so that it would fit into the room) when he got there he said my house needed cleaning and there was no way that he and his friends could put it in today because the house was not ready for it. ) later i was told that he said my house looked like a pig pin. IT did not i have been working on it since that morning i can't help it if it is not perfect! secondly while he was here he ask/ demanded that i move something's on the porch and i did but as i was moving so fast and trying to get it done i rammed my left foot into a vcr that i had put out there because i was getting tired of it in my house since i could not use it. i am barely able to walk right now because of it. i have a broken toenail . treating it with peroxide and Epson salt. not when i told my dad he said to put alcohol on it . do you realize how painful that would be to soak your wound in that? i was not going to nor did i think it was funny in any form or mannor. i hate pain and will avoid it at all cost. i took it as a joke in one way but still that it nothing to laugh about. laughing at someone's pain is not funny to me. that hurt my feelings and that is deep. today i called my dad to see if i could pick up a chair he said i could have. my daughter was mad when she got off the bus. when we came to their house mom saw that my daughter was upset and angry, she ask what did mommy do to you to make you mad. i said or tried to convey that she was mad when she got off the bus this afternoon. this was shortly followed by dad saying something of sorts that i was a bad mother cause when i said I AM A GOOD MOTHER ! all he said and "uhumm " like he did not believe me. this hurt me bad . i had to call my BFF and talk to her for a short while. i am really upset that he and mom believe that i am a bad mother. what have i done? i don't do drugs or drink alcohol or anything like that :am i such a bad person that i should not be or have a child to care for?
Let it roll off your back some parents and relatives in general do not know when to back off. My mom walked into my house earlier this week and the first thing she said was "I see you have fallen behind on the house work again." My house was not perfect true but it wasn't filthy. Every time that woman comes into my house she tells me what needs to be cleaned and in what order. Don't worry it's not you it's them
Honey some people just think what they think for reasons that are shallow and dumb. I had the same deal with my parents and I ended up moving 200 miles away from them and am much happier because of it. Don't let them make you think less of yourself just because they have formed an inaccurate opinion based on faulty information. As for your brother, I'd just tell him that if your pig pen is such an affront to him he can get his a$$ in there and clean it to his specifications otherwise leave it along drop off the **** couch and stop judging you since I doubt he is a perfect person. i had to do something of the sort with my brothers and i wasn't nearly that delicate about it.
the other thing I hate is my parents comparing me to him , for instance " his house is clean, why can't you do that, or you wouldn't see a mess in his house, he worked every night and his don't leave his house dirty. . my parents drive my nuts once they start on their rampage. but I have learned that they are set in their ways and can't change. my dad even compared me to one of his aunts and how clean she kept her house. One day me and my daughter clean the house from top to bottom for 6 hours, it was prefect or so I thought, when I invited them in WHAT DID I GET? ( mom ) I don't seem much, you did this or that" (dad) Looks like you clean the floor a little" well that is plain Bull chit me and her worked for 6 hrs and what did we get? NOTHING no wow the house looks great, you work and the house good ? nope not a since acknowledgement of the hard work we put in. like I tell them " you are both blind like bats without radar . you don't see change because you don't look for it. from that day forward I did not care what they thought of the house,
it took me 2 wine coolers to cam down and not be upset. but i also began to write a long letter to my dad. I began with the first thing that hit me and continues til I covered all my pain and hurt that he has made me feel though the years. it covered 5 pages at first then I added a few thing that popped into mind, now just one page more 6 I made copies of it for myself and intend on giving him the original in pen that I had made since my printer and Photoshop would not make the pencils viewable . what he said about me not being a fit mother really hurt my psyche and feelings. what right does he have to call me that when I do anything for my daughter he is not around to get them nor does he see what I do for her apparently as some of you may know I have had problems with my parents for years treating my like dirt. they do one thing nice for me and then stab me in the back with negative comments and critism I wrote him a 6 page letter explaining how I feel and everything that is on my heart. I wrote it in the moment that I was in pain and sadness determined to stop the horrible pain I feel. he is getting the letter one way or another!