I am so confused.....been separated almost a year I met a guy on match it all started like a fairytale.. sending me flowers after the second date, and then 10 days later and then a nice trip and then more flowers...just amazing but felt a bit over baring at the time. while I have two kids and am going through divorce (nothing that I hide from him, he knew when we started dating), after 3 months our relationship started to get weird...I started to have feelings and be emotionally available and now the same guy was so busy with " work " so I become unhappy ...It felt so lonely even though I was in a relationship. Every time I tried to bring it up and speak to him about it nicely and see what the problem was he would shut me down immediately blaming me that I'm not understanding and he's a victim to his work but inside my heart that sounded like an excuse or a way to avoid the real issue...so I stopped talking to him for almost two days and he didn't even call or text to see where the hell I was ...at that point I just stopped communicating and went back online ...uhhh there he was with a hidden profile...I felt to stupid...now it's just so hard bc he was the light in my life and brought so much happiness and excitement that's much needed...first week I was just mad, the second week I was depressed and now I am getting over it but still hurts and I keep thinking about all the great time we had before things got bad ...
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Sorry you got hurt. He/it wasn't real. One of those people that enjoy the pursuit of a new relationship but once in it lose interest. Better you found out after 3 months, would have hurt so much more later. Next time look for red flags, sometimes things that seem too good to be true really are too good to be true! Take your time, make a guy work a bit for your time and getting to know you. But never feel stupid for trusting and giving a person a chance, he was a loser, and you're still a genuine person, looking for an equally genuine guy! No stupidity there! Forget him, stop hurting and look forward to the real happiness you're going to have with the RIGHT guy! :-)