I have this guy friend that I've been hanging out with for months. Although many times he would do things to irritate me. He would nit pick at me about my house, my car the way I dress just making comments that it doesn't meet his standards. Then often when I would go to his house he would act like he was tired. In addition, I would try to get him to go somewhere and do something and often he didn't want to do anything. So anyways I would get upset about his behavior but get over it. Well recently I was talking about wanting to go to this festival that was an hour and a half away. He said he wanted to go so then later in the week I checked with him and he wanted to schedule a time to leave on Sat. He doesn't work and he tends to sleep in. So completely feeling like he was going to back out if I called him or give him a heads up to hide and not want to go I didn't call him. I got there at 10:30am feeling like I would have to wait fot him to get ready. Instead he said he feel like he wanted to go now and why didn't I call. To which I said why didn't you call. He said because I was the one whom decided to change the plans??? what ever that meant. He decided he was making lunch so I waited but then he decided to make popcorn too. He was sitting there watching a DVD of a concert. I said what are you doing? Although I could barely have a conversation with him because the music was so loud and he wouldn't turn it down. Then he was ignoring me and wouldn't talk to me. Then he said in a militant way when I said be here you be here. He said he didn't want to go. I said why was he being so mean to me and crying but he didn't care. He just told me to get out of his house and was being really hateful to me. Also I brought up that usually he doesn't want to get up and do anything. He says this was different we had plans. The festival was an all day event continuing until 10pm. He has a history of not wanting to get up and do things. I was afraid if I called him he would try to hide or back out of going. Personally I feel like he had no intention of going in the first place and just wanted to blame me and make it look like I did something so we didn't go. If he wanted to really go he would have gone. So now I'm feeling really sad and lonely not only because he disappointed me but because he acts like he doesn't want to deal with me anymore and over nothing.
Hi Catgirl, can you please share the positives of this friendship, so that I can better understand why you are friends with this man? It seems like a very one-sided friendship, and friendships should be a two-way street.
Often go out and eat and hang out and talk watch movies together. He's weird one day I'll hang out with him and he's fine then the next time I deal with him and he's acts awful by irritating me or causing problems.
It's really not worth your time or energy to have a "friend" like this in your life. I'd much rather spend time alone than with someone like that.