I am so upset. My husband knows I am no longer a source for his narc energy, so he has started on my 5 year old. I brought the boys home after daycare at 545 pm. My first priority is always to get them dinner. My narc stated that he wanted my older son to go with him to pick up some power tools which would have meant no dinner until 7pm for my son. I told him calmly that the boys need to eat first. My narc threw a tantrum then asked my son to come with him. When my son said no, he wanted to stay home, my narc stormed out the door without a word. Later when he was gone, my son had a crying breakdown about not wanting to go for a bath, which is unusual and I think it was really about "letting his dad down". I am so sad!
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misstolerant I know exactly how you feel. My 6 yr old daughter was invited to a bday party for Sat, but my stbx narc just sternly told her..no u can't go thats my weekend..we r doing things I want. I then Saud since when is Sat included in fathers day? This is one of her close friends at school...I then asked what his plans were that she can't go to the party then go do whatever his plans were and then I emphasized..fathers day is sunday..he then got angry at me then got angry st the parents that scheduled the kids bday party on his weekend. She then looked at me for answers and all I can say is ill see if I can talk to daddy about. Well I put my foot down and then the next day he emailed the parents and was soooo nice about the invitation and that my daughter will love to come..what an @$$
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@mamaoftwo - I loved your last three words. I know I am not the only one who has used that phrase a time or two. I still don’t know how they can be so self-centered, so shallow, so selfish. I still shake my head at the fact that I fell for it! We all have. From what I can tell - none of us are idiots. Why?
That - and just remember: Their opinion is JUST that! An opinion, not fact.
That little phrase has helped me out a time or two....
My x narc used to say that to me...my opinion was only an opinion....my daughter 9 yrs old. Uses that against me whenever she disagrees with me.
**** them
For using the children !!!! I'm
So sorry !!! I'm
Hurting for you all !