i know that this is happening, I know that it is real, but it just doesn't feel real. I don't feel real I haven't really cried yet because that would make it too real. My husband has found someone else and he doesn't know what he wants, he is confused.
I thought that I had a good marriage. We have been married for eleven years in two days. Happy anniversary!
I don't know how to get the next foot in front of the next foot anymore.
It has been so long since I have had to plan things on my own and I am so scared of everything that is happening!
Gosh honey I'm so sorry, we're all here to talk to if & when you feel like it as its alot to process so go easy on yourself.
All my strengths.
April
I am so sorry too. I have been there. Before you do anything else, get an attorney. His "confusion" is an attempt to play on your fragile emotional state and take further advantage of you in the divorce. He will be extra kind and concerned till you tell him you have an attorney.Then he will be extremely angry that he cannot control you emotionally. Try it and see. Believe me, I was married 12 years and my husband did the same thing out of the blue. He did a lot of screaming at me on the phone after I stopped our joint credit cards-unless you want to pay for the girlfriends rent and Victoria's Secret gifts like I ended up doing, do that immediately if you are both on the account. The phone number to call is on the back of the card. It got pretty bad for a while but eventually when he realized I was no longer under his thumb, things were finalized and I was able to move on. If you have children it will be harder but get emotional help. Also, cry your eyes out now. There are several stages to grief and you need to get past on to the stage where you realize that you are his loss, not the other way around and get a little angry. Then you can start to heal. I found later, doing some soul searching that I was more jealous over the fact that he dumped me for a younger woman that I was about losing him. Many years later now, I may have a similar thing happening but I really learned from the first experience. You can too.
Take care and be strong,
lostinlife
When you feel up to it check out http://www.divorceinfo.com/ theres information there to consider that you maybe havent thought of yet & my assist you later on. My heart goes out to you as this is a long process so go easy on yourself as much as possible.
Take care of you.
April
I know exactly how you feel. Husband walked out after 15 years of marriage. One day at a time is all you can do.....and trust that God has a plan for your life and that He is in complete control. It will be OK....YOU will be OK.