I am struggling here lately with depression... and taking it out on my boyfriend but I don't think understands exactly what I'm going through... sometimes I think it would be better for me to just leave him so I can deal with this alone but I don't want to
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I dont have any experience with personal depression but from someone who has seen it in others I will have to say it is hard for those on the outside to see it. It's not like you have a third arm growing out of your forehead for all to see. You are still talking, and walking and doing all the things that you would do if nothing was wrong. So its easy for someone on the outside looking in to not realize that you are suffering.
I hope you take this opportunity to see a therapist. Talk with them about this. Get medications if it is necessary.
Your boyfriend will not understand. If he cares about you he will empathize with you and do his best to support you in this matter but he needs the knowledge too. He should see a therapist too but in the form of how to support someone with depression. It will be hard for him but any decisions you make please make together.
We are here for you. You will get through this.
He knows I told him today I just don't think he accepts it ... I've battled depression for years but I went to a place that helped me overcome it but since I was diagnosed with pcos last year it has gotten worse over time
I'm going through this exact thing & I definitely feel like it ruins my relationship but he understands that I've been through a lot. When you're depressed you tend to isolate I know I do & I don't tell him what's on my mind then get frustrated when he isn't there. You just have to communicate & let him know how you feel
him accepting it is hard, like I said, Depression doesnt have a physical symptom that he can see. Its not his fault. He will say "How can you be depressed? Look at your life.' and you might have a sweet life, but that doesn't mean you cannot be depressed. It might take time for him to accept it. My son (who if 15) has ADHD was very hard for me to accept when he was young. All of the non-scientific stuff was about improper parenting, diet, nutrition blah blah. I eventually accepted it after about 4 doctors and more tests than I can count. You just need to stay the course. You keep taking care of you. Schedule a few meetings with therapists from time to time in which he will come with you. Have the therapist help you tell him about what is going on. Not so much about what he can do because its going to be his call. If he wants to help and support he can do anything from becoming a depression master to staying out of your way while you deal.
Good luck. btw, my initials are KMG as well so that's pretty cool.
I understand this completely. When I am depressed, scared, or anxious I find it easier to blame others or take out all my worries and frustrations on them. My boyfriend stood by me through all of that for four years, and I think I finally wore him down. He got tired of always trying to help, but me never letting him. Don't make the same mistake I did, because it isn't fair to your loved ones. You can overcome this.
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