I am tried of the nonstop thinking and wondering. I'm sick

I am tried of the nonstop thinking and wondering. I'm sick of that sick feeling in the pit of my stomach. I was asked how I have been from someone yesterday because they heard I was doing good. I said who ever told you that was wrong I said I'm doing terrible I get up go to work after work walk 4-6 miles then go home to bed. If I smile it's not real. I hate that I let this control me. I know I can't let 15 years go away in 43 days. But I hate that I'm hurting and he isn't. I know I sound like a 5 year old, but it's not fair we have to go through this.

Hi. I feel the exact same way. We have been together 20 years now. She cheated on me. Im trying to work things out but she doesnt seem to want the same although she says she loves me. She lives her life normally. Goes places does things. I cant get myself to leave the house. I think about our marriage all the time and it is consuming me yet i see her laugh and smile and be happy like nothing happened.

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He does the same thing, but he is showing off his new girlfriend. We are still married. I guess some people are just heartless and only care about their own self.

Michelle: People need time to heal. The average time to heal from divorce is two years - it was for me. Give yourself the gift of more time.

Thanks Baldwin. I am well trying too take it day by day. So I get to go thru all the hurt while he never will. I know I shouldn't care anything about him, sure doesn't seem right too me he gets to be happy go lucky and I just cry.

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