I can't snap out of my depression and stop thinking about my ex with his new girlfriend. I was married to him for 26 years and apart for 3. How do I heal my broken heart? STRUGGLING and just don't want to wake up each day.
I was married to my ex for 16 years when I found a nude photo of him. Four children. The only difference is that I never loved my husband. So I didn't have to deal with a broken heart, just with all his efforts to destroy me in all other areas of my life. I learned that healing takes time and that I should use that time to start over and build up my life into something really remarkable. That's what worked for me. (Of course, my ex's family taking my side in the divorce didn't hurt either!) :)
Betrayal is so hard to be OK with, people think that time heals all wounds, but it takes a lot of strength to move past something like this. Your husband and his new girlfriend can quickly become an obsession and while I completely get it, I mean what woman doesn't fear this situation, you have to decide what you want out of life now. Think about all the things that just annoyed the hell out of you, namely cheating would be on the top of my list and go over it everytime you want him back. Pack up all his stuff and have a garage sale, treat yourself to something he never agreed you should do/have. While this situation isn't ideal, it isn't the end of the road for you, stop putting all your self worth in the basket marked WIFE. You are still you, find yourself!
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Family and friends are so good to me, my mind is my own worst enemy. He had my heart and soul since I was 17. Now at 48 I have to live my life alone. I am a strong person except when it comes to him. I have to look at it as a bad day not a bad life. Betrayal is worse than death. I hope people realize this, before they ever cheat on a loved one. Thanks for the response. "Cheers"