hi my nema is dulce and i cant stop snooping around my husband's stuff. at first i used to look through his cellphone the whole time, i would wait till he went to sleep or when he was doing something and i would look through it, then i would go and look at his contacs, even though i knew who was on there already. now i look through his facebook and yahoo email, at least five times at day or more. everytime i see a new number or when he addded some new girl on facebook i go crazy and i ask a thousand questions. i honestly dont have a reason not to trust him he dont go out and if he does i go with him. i dont know why i get so jealous i mean he has the right to have friends like i do right? can some one help me?
my best suggestion is therapy.it sounds like you have been in bad relationships in the past and it is controlling your life. i may be wrong but i know i had a hard time when i had bad relationships in my past. took me a long time to not let it control my life and to know that this wasnt the way to live life.i am here if you need to talk. welcome to the site. :)
i was thinking of what you say about the reason why im like this and no its not because of bad relationship in the past but because of family history you see my parents are divoce and they divorce because my dad cheated on my mom. then two of my 3 brothers cheated on their wives. so i guess im scared that my husband does the same as my family. can i ask you something? ..... can you trust somebody 100% of the time? how should i know when he finds somebody else ? can two people stay together without one of them cheating on the other one? ...sorry for asking so many questions but im still trying
You never trust someone 100% of the time but you can choose not to act on that small percentage that you don't trust them. I used to snoop on my ex..wait for him to sleep and go through all of his stuff-he eventually caught on but didnt tell me and started deleting everything. Noone is perfect and will make mistakes but love and forgiveness exist for a reason. They go hand in hand to a certain point. Only you know that point. Two people can stay in love until they die. How would you feel if he did the same to you? I would seek come kind of counseling and get issues out that way rather than snooping. Snooping and distrust could drive him away because he wouldn't trust you anymore not to snoop. You are not your mom and dad-you two are a completely different couple in a different time and with different feelings. He is not your father. He never will be-he is his own person and loves you. Be happy with the present and stop worrying about the future or you will have none. Relax and enjoy being in love.
you never can know 100% for sure if someone is cheating on you unless you catch them or they admit it. i agree with jassy enjoy your life and you hubby. i dont know if you ever accuse him of cheating or not but sometimes when people do that they drive the person to cheat. thats what i have heard at least. we are in control of only ourselves and what we choose to do.again i think therapy would be great they may be able to give you more advice or explain why your feeling the thinngs you are feeling.
thanks guys, you are rights im not mom and he is not dad, thanks and i will find a way to find help. thanks, you dont know how much this helps me. i never ever talk to anybody else about this. thanks
no problem i am here if you need to talk. i am glad that you were able to open up and be able to find answers. we all have our problems and sometimes it is hard to admit. believe me i know. i dont like to think i have problems lol. hope you are having a wonderful day. :)