I've been married for almost eight years, and in our first year of marriage I found out he was cheating. It was only online cheating, but it still felt like he ripped my heart out. He told me was sorry and he would never talk to the woman again. Six mths. later I found out he got in touch with this woman the very next day. When I asked him about it, he pretty much told me it was my fault. For about a yr. now, he has been online talking with different women. He says their just friends, but I'm not sure I can trust him. He spends more time online talking to them than he does talking or spending time with our family. What really worries me is he tries to hide he's talks with them. I just don't know what to do. I don't want to push him away, but I'm finding harder to be around him.
Hi there, I was recently in that same situation last year around this time throughout march of this year. My husband did the same. He kept talking to this one person a lot on yahoo and said they were just friends. I was very upset. We were having problems all over the place and it just got worse. I lent my phone to him for a bit and found out he was talking to her for hours on it. I was so depressed. I investigated myself. I took his phone every morning and checked it. Finally I saw him calling her babe and telling her I love you and alll that and she had a boyfriend also. I spoke to her cursed at both of them and I saw my husband being very protective of her so I finally decided I was getting a divorce because this kept going on and we just got married so he was still in love with her after we got married and wouldn't choose her or me. So I went to talk to a lawyer and everything. I ignored him the most I could and finally he came and apologized and realized that she wouldn't of gone through what I did to be with him and I still wanted t get a divorce but I didn't. I still wonder to the day if I should of or not. Our trust and understanding has gotten a lot better. We can tell each other things and most things now. Its up to you what to do. I'm here if you want to keep in touch. I'm new to this too I just registered the day I posted this comment and you're the first comment I posted :-) I'm not going to tell you to leave him because I didn't so that would be hypocritcal.
Lee, your feelings are justified & this has nothing to do w/you its about him. Is he willing to talk about the issues & try to make the relationship better by opening the doors of communication? Or are you two just existing & too afraid to discuss whats really at the bottom of all this, for if he cares about how this is making you feel resentful & that it pushes you away more he may be willing to get it back on track w/you. We teach people how to treat us.
Mizz - glad that worked for you interesting & it sounds like it opened doors to a better relationship & understanding of one another.