I don't know what's wrong with me. I don't like the idea of

I don't know what's wrong with me. I don't like the idea of married at all, because in my head, getting married means I need to take care of my husband's daily needs (it is expected in my society) where I'm barely taking care of myself. And somehow I can't find something appealing in getting married besides it will make those around me happy (since they may think someone is finally gonna take care of me and I'm no longer a burden to my family, and because I'm already too old for being single). I know my way of thinking is wrong, that there must be something fun/interesting in being married, but as much as I'm thinking about it, I just can't find it. I really need someone who can convince me the otherwise.

MessyGirl No one should get married because they think it's fun or interesting. Those things fade away very quickly. You should get married for companionship, shared feelings of what togetherness is, values, commitment, and trust. There is nothing wrong with being single. Neither one of my grown children want to get married. My daughter has been with her boyfriend for 10 years. They have a very solid relationship. But they don't want to get married.

@mmadlecl it’s impossible to opt for living together with your partner without marriage in Asia (I think, or in my country in particular) but also it’s hard to stay single because they will judge you harshly. I still haven’t found my person up to this day, and I only get older everyday so people start pressuring me to get married. But I feel like I’m not ready and I don’t know if I’ll ever be ready

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No I think you’re right. fruitful relationships may also take other forms though so keep your eyes open. :grinning: