i dont know where to start, basically my parents own a apartment in turkey we are from uk. I travelled over for a weeks holiday with a friend we went for a night out and it all ended badly. It was a turkish man which i know he knows english well so when i kept saying no no no he wouldnt listen to me, this only happened 5 days ago i paid for a flight back home to uk and now back at home ive been for checks and waiting for results and trying my best to act normal as i have children and dont want them finding out what ive been through, i get married in august and all my bridesmaids have organised a huge night out for my hen night am scared because of this i wont be able to manage the night out or even worse be able to face all the people at my wedding. i need to try get back to being my normal bubbly happy self again i dont want this man ruining my life and i dont want him spoiling things i have looked forward to for so long. i feel writing this down rather than saying it makes it so much easier to express myself
How did other people survive?
Im so sorry to hear this. Its good your talking. Its the first step. Does your partner know? I agree as i have children myself there are some things they should never find out. At some point id sugguest your partner if he doesnt already know so he can give you some support. He will figure out something is wrong sooner or later. You should seek some councelling or therapy also. How are you feeling though ? What are you doing to cope at the moment or are you just blocking it out ?
Ive told my partner he has took time off work to support me, i would never ever tell my children what happened, at the moment im doing nothing i havent seen a counceller i dont feel i could talk to one am not good with expressing my feelings i have mainly just try to forget about it, try move on i dont know how else to deal with it ive gotta try keep strong for my children
Thats brave of you for telling him so soon. Have you thought about taking your partner with you to get some councelling? Maybe that might help. Also word of advice from experience. There are going to be many days where you dont want to get up out of bed but you need too. Depressions not far away and the less you fight it the quicker you fall. Stay strong. If your finding things tough you know this is a safe place for you to express yourself XOXO
With me being on holiday and wanted to get home immediatly i found i need to speak up, i went to police over in turkey and the man was arrested straight away, i dont do talking face to face very well thats why i decided to look online for some support means o dont burden my family with how i feel i dont want pity from them i want to try get my life back to normal, i know its gonna take time but even just typing this out makes me feel a little better i get to express and talk about it, i will never enter that country again i would never trust a turkish man again. Now im back at home i feel safe and i know my family care for me and worry about me but i just need normality back. I feel discusted and dirty and think maybe if i didnt get so drunk this wouldnt of happened, keep thinking did i lead him on? Did i flirt with him but 1 thing i know for sure i said NO
Wow im pleased you went to the police while over there. Many women can never pluck up the courage. Whatever you find suits you aslong as your seeking some sort of support.
You could of stood infront of him naked its still not your fault. You said no thats rape end of. Flirting isnt asking to be put in that position so so what even you did, STILL NOT YOUR FAULT PLEASE DO NOT BLAME YOURSELF!
Im very proud you went to the police XOXO
I feel proud in myself i nearly didnt go to police but after alot of convincing i did am glad i did it and when i left country he was locked up makes me feel he deserves whats coming to him and i hope they have enough evidence to convict him