One of the greatest gifts we can have in life is a supportive community. A group that understands our struggles, listens without judgment, and stands by us when we feel like the world is falling apart. For that, I am deeply grateful to this group and the people in it.
That said, I think it’s important to remind ourselves of something fundamental: our journey to healing is our own. I see a lot of posts with people suffering, but I think the suffering is misguided. Often posts tell the tale of how EVERYONE leaves, EVERYONE is a backstabber, NO ONE cares, etc. At some point we need to look inside, stop being victims, and really think that maybe the problem is not other people. I’m a firm believer of supporting others, but also that sometimes tough love is necessary to help others grow. Trust me when I tell you I say this with love.
It’s easy, especially when we’re struggling, to see the world through a lens of pain. We might feel abandoned, betrayed, or let down by others. But here’s the truth: no one is obligated to stay by our side, especially if our actions unintentionally push them away.
Self-awareness is a crucial part of healing. Are we truly letting others support us, or are we unknowingly putting the weight of our struggles on their shoulders? Are we building connections or driving people away because we are too caught up in our own pain to see theirs?
It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to lean on others. But we must also take responsibility for our growth. This means doing the hard work—seeking therapy, reflecting on our behavior, and making changes where needed. Support is a lifeline, but we must be the ones swimming to shore.
Healing is not a solo journey, but it also can’t be entirely carried by others. When we take responsibility for ourselves, we not only grow but create healthier, more meaningful relationships with those around us.
Let’s support each other, hold each other accountable, and remember that while no one fights alone, the fight still begins within us.