I feel like no one cares about me or what I have to say. I'm a good friend to so many people, but when it's my turn to lean on someone I fall to the ground. No one cares. I feel like I have absolutely no one in this world to confide in.
I care. :)
We care here. There is a lot of pain at SG, but a lot of support too!
There is no point in being a good friend to people who won't help you when you're in trouble. I take it you have actually asked them for help; they do know you're in trouble, yes?
It's just that when I vent to them and tell the my problems somehow they always manage to switch it back to themselves instead of listening to what I have to say.
@K14 maybe they are trying to relate to you.
Hey. I hope I'll help with my advice ; I think that if you say something to a friend and they're not interested, they're no friend. I've known that myself and it's so hard to let them go, but you should try. I'm really sorry but try to love yourself and you will matter..to yourself ! It's the most important thing. Try to be happy. I know, easier said than done, but I was in Depression not too long ago, and I'm much better now. So. Go out. Try new things. Make friends, because you CAN ! Trust me, everything is much better when we just dare to do things. I can't pretend to know you and your life, because I don't, but I hope it has helped you babe xx
Bisous E.
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I think that as a species we fail to really communicate with one another effectively, you'd think we would do so much better with all the books and dvds and seminars available. When your friend does that, changes the conversation back to herself do you stop her and say " i really need you to listen to me right now because I am feeling so alone and not cared about." See how she handles that bare truth and you will know if she is a friend worth keeping. Being completely honest in your relationships can be good and bad, but at least you put YOUR self out there and not some version of yourself that you fall into to be more "acceptable" to more people. You may be surprised because people will respond to a demanding person before they will to a rug they can walk right over.
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@dark_and_twisty71 When I say to my friend that I need her to listen to me she turns around and says friendship is a two way street. I get that, but I’m always the one listening! It’s hard to be the one listening all the time & not having anyone to confide in. It sucks.
You'll find people who will listen to you. Feel free to talk to me anytime
I agree with you and your friend sounds like she is a narcissistic b****. do you ever say to her that you know that and that it is your turn to drive? you have issues with confrontation and self-esteem don't you? Next time just turn around and walk to the door and open it and tell her when she is ready to listen and be half as good a friend to you as you have been to her she may come back, but right now you want her gone.
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Yea I feel like a lot of my friends tend to be self centered. They never seem to care what's going on with me. It just sucks because IDon't know where to find caring/understanding friends.