i feel that i hate life ,hate my family because they want me left my first love in my life , and if i left him and lost a great person ,in this time i feel that i loss my life ...my family make me hate living they always talk about love , when i love they see that there weren't real love .and they think that this person didn't love me ...now i feel that i'm lonely really soooo lonely ..i can't find anybody know or feel what i feel or know how much i love this person .....i hate my life i hate family ,i hate people..i want to be dead ....i'm 19 years
Hey,
I'm just a small bit confused. did you just break up with someone or did your family not like this person and make you break up one someone?
Please don't talk like that. You are just going through a really tough time at the moment and I really feel for you. but you are a good person. You have loved and lost, as what happens to most and you are low at present. This will pass in time.
Your parents make think it wasn't "real love" because they may still see you as being very young, so please just understand that, sometimes parents aren't perfect. But they do love you dearly. Reach out to one of them and tell them that you are still really hurting and you'd appreciate someone to talk to as you feel a little lonely at present.
In general people are good, we just don't get it right sometimes, so please take it easy on us, and give yourself a break too.
keep coming back for support
Thinking of you
Moongal x
i promise i will take it easy , because life needn’t sad or cry …now i 'm alive i don’t where i will be tomorrow
thanks for making me feel that i 'm not lonely
Thank you for sharing your story with us. You are going through severe pain and therefore feel hatred towards everything and everyone at the moment, you can't see, think or feel clearly. Allow yourself to feel pain and start to work through it slowly but surely. Each day will get easier and easier. Though, I am sure your family was only being protective of you and loves you very much. Per Moongal's suggestion, try reaching out to your family and opening up to them. They can give you a strong and loving perspective as to why they felt against the relationship to begin with. I am sure that they would never intentionally do anything to hurt you and only want the best for you. My mother was so against just about every man that I dated from my late teens through my early thirties. It would really upset me, but I realized how much she loved me and only wanted the very best for me. Oddly enough, she was seriously right about each and every guy. If I would have continued in those relationships, then I would have ended up in misery. She was right in the end!
Try to change your current feelings and emotions to that of positive and loving ones and you will be able to heal that much more quickly. Look ahead to a beautiful future that you have which will be filled with so much love. I am praying for you and sending you tons of positive energy.
i’m so happy for your reply and u are right …and i need to think again and again
really thnx
mam's opinion he isn't good person for me ...may be when w fail in love we think with heart not brain ,so i may be wrong and my mam is right..it's my first love i'm sure mam love me soooo much ....i can't take decision ...you know when i try to leave him i feel his love more and more ...
really i don't know what can i do ??
hi Gharam,
Love can be so hard.....and yet we keep on doing it. i know how you feel right now. you picked a great support group here. they really pick you up when you are feeling down. keep coming back here for support and hopefully you will feel better soon :)
i want tell u that i’m so happy to be here
really i feel that there were people listen to me and can feel what i feel
really i’m so happy
Gharam, I am so happy to hear from you and it seems that you are in a bit better of a place with everything. You have the very right attitude now by seeing and knowing that your mom only has your best interest at heart. I really know that she does. Sometimes people see things from the outside more than we see. And it is true, with love we sometimes lead with our heart and our mind doesn't really play a part in decision, which is good for the most part but not in an unhealthy relationship.
Keep looking ahead to an incredibly bright future filled with so much love and fulfillment. You will heal this pain and be in such a wonderful place so soon. Time will heal all wounds.
Dear Gharam,
You and I are are the same age. I am also 19 and am going through a rough patch. My first love is a year older than me and (much like yours) is not good for me in many ways. However, he is good for me in some ways too. It's extremely confusing and I love him with all my heart still, even though I know I shouldn't.
What I do to cope is stay here and keep a journal here. People are very helpful and understanding. I also try to keep in mind that if one person found me beautiful, there must be another one out there somewhere if things don't work out with my first love. I'm not really an optimist, but I am attempting to change my thinking process to become one. Try to remember that you did have love, which is more than most people our age can truly say. You know what it feels like to be loved by someone, and that is a gift.
Assalamualeykum are you still here?