I had posted my kik username in case anyone needed to talk. A guy found me and we talked. This was a little over a week ago. He was depressed and suicidal. I knew nothing about him except his name and reasons why he was so depressed. He threatened to kill himself multiple times. I didn't hear from him on wednesday. I recieved a message yesterday from his friend saying he was gone.
I could have done more. I know I could have. I'm just caught up in my mom being in the hospital and my car wreck... I don't know what to do.
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Well, I'm guessing you are one of the few who tried. That makes you better than most. But the real reality is that it was always in his control, and his decision. Therefore it is out of your hands, and as much as you would like things to have been different, it's not your fault. He could have chosen to listen, but didn't. He (sadly) made his choice. Easy to say I know, and hard to accept, but don't make his mistake, and beat yourself up for something that is ultimately outside your control. Take a deep breath, and consider what you would say to someone else, who was in your position. Stay cool friend.
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You are not responsible for what happens to others. You did what you could, what you could afford to give. That isn't selfish, it's healthy. This loss is not your fault, let go of that guilt and just openly grieve. You are responsible for yourself, and no one else. You can offer a hand to help, but everything else is out of your control. That's ok. Just keep moving, one step at a time. This is a terrible thing to happen with what you're already going through, and I'm sorry.
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It is not for us to save others. We are all responsible for our own wellbeing. Other people can help us, give us support and tools, but in the end we must pull ourselves out of that darkness with our own two hands. Sometimes the weight is too much, the burden too heavy. And that is no one's fault, least of all those who try to help. Don't blame yourself, hon. Hugs.
I've had something like that happen to me too, freaked me out at first, but then someone pointed out just how easily it could be a fake thing. Some people do that, I don't know why, but it happens. I tend to be pretty suspicious of "family or friend finds the account and lets me know hte previous person is supposedly dead" communications. Maybe you can just choose to believe that someone's just trolling for sympathy doing that.
@Northguy I hadn’t thought of that before… it would be incredibly cruel. I guess it would make sense for someone wanting to know that people care, but it wouldn’t need to be that extreme.
Hi Mona, you are a good person for helping someone you don't even know. I am thankful that there are people like you because it really makes our world a better place to be. I hope you won't be discouraged from what happened. Take your time to recover. Though things may not happen the way we want it to be, your efforts are still very appreciated. Hugs
@elizz I felt like what I had done didn’t matter because it had failed. Thank you for saying it was appreciated anyway.
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