I hate the lies, why should I have to care when it was NOT M

Addiction & Recovery Substance Abuse
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I hate the lies, why should I have to care when it was NOT ME who did the drug. They will choose u over the drug... always...

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They will NOT** choose u...

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The drug takes away all their choice. U r right

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Yea... willing to risk anything. .. now giving me an attitude as I help them thru the withdrawals... it hurts

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I know it sucks from your end, but try to become familiar with the nature not just of drugs, but specifically opiates, and even more specifically, the grandaddy of them all, heroin. Read some stories about how completely and totally overwhelming the addiction can be. As much as it sucks to deal with the addict, it's a disease, and there needs to be the same level of compassion as if our loved one was in a car crash, or had cancer.

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Yea and I do have compassion.... but it's hard having to go thru the relapses with them...so much pain they have to go thru for the withdrawals. ...I feel helpless

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There are ways to comfort/alleviate pain from withdrawals, but you can only help make it a but better. There's plenty of good advice out there for alleviating withdrawals, but I think best time to get them to make a change is after the worst of the withdrawals are ending.

I feel for ya..

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Thanks I appreciate it .....he's on the 4th day.... yesterday was bad...but he got thru it...he promises no more but we'll see... I appreciate ur words

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Good luck. Right around here we are vulnerable, learning our lesson, hopefully humble, and open to listening. The feeling of "I'm not going through that again" should be met by kind rewards of reinforcement and love.

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I agree.... he feels better but now I feel low.... hard to deal with the ups and downs with my disorder. I put myself aside and make myself strong to be there for him and give him the support he needs...but I let myself go.... it's been hard.... taking it one day at a time

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You must take care of yourself too. If we run ourselves down, we're no help to others.

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I know. This week drained me completely emotionally and mentally. Glad I get to see my family tomorrow but scared of leaving him alone for a day… but I’m being hopeful. And next weekend will be a trial… I’m rooting for him