I have been having a hard time dealing with the hurt and betrayal by my husband. It has been a month And a half since I found out about the affair. When I say anything about it He trys to turn it around on me. Like he tells me that it would be nice if I would take him out and buy him things. He's the one who cheated so why is it I need to take him out and buy him things too? I have stood by him through everything and he goes through my phone and fb and questions me like I am the one who screwed up. I have a guy friend(just a friend) that I talk to and my husband would message him using a app that would allow him to use my phone number and would text him to see if I was cheating. And when I confronted him about it he denied it at first and then admitted to it. So I deleted my guy friends number and deleted him on fb. Then to wake up this morning with his number back in my phone and a text message. Asked my husband about it and he says I didn't touch your phone.so o told my husband I wasn't going to talk to anyone. So I have come here to be able to vent.I just don't understand how someone can hurt the person they are supposed to love. I wish all of the thoughts of him and her would get out of my head and that the hurt would go away...
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So sorry you're going through this... My husband was definitely pointing the finger at me and down right denying the affairs all together at first. It took months before he was willing to open up and explain himself. We took some time apart (which I suggest you trying), which I think gave him time to realize that he screwes up and he needed to fix it.
I wish you the best of luck, I am always here if you need to talk!
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