I have been married 27 years. I cannot believe I am going through this. He won't talk to me about what he plans to do. I am very guarded right now.
We are in a very similar boat. My 27 year marriage will be dissolved in a few months. He walked out/abandoned me several months ago. The emotional stuff is excruciating; the what "should've been," "could've been," and "would've been," hauntingly painful. But the financial wreak havoc he's attempting to leave me in is horrible, cruel and appears well-planned.
All in the same boat. I guess we all have to learn to prioritize meaning be selfish and think of our selves first. Now that finances are talked about. I get scared knowing they can all turn into some kind of monster. The last things we think they can turn into can happen, the unfathomable.