I have just entered my first sexual relationship since splitting with my ex (who infected me) a couple of years ago. I didn't tell my new boyfriend out of fear, shame and ignorance and how he has is having his first outbreak but thinks it's something else. I didn't realize what it was until researching this morning after he went to work. Now I am worried about his health and feelings towards me. I feel like a selfish fool for not disclosing this to him about this beforehand.
So u had sex and oral sex with out using a condom?? Just curious ... how long have yous bee together for?
Hi, thanks for responding. Yes that's right, 4 weeks. I will never make this mistake again, I feel so awful for burying my head in the sand over this. I told him but he thinks it's some kind of other irritation from the salt water. We both are super healthy eaters and very fit, hoping he is right and maybe there's a chance he's not infected.
Oh man...well u live and u learn.. I had an experience the other day almost had sex with some one. I like and I couldn't do it. Way to scared ..
I completely understand why you're feeling selfish but try not to take it too hard. I know it's a horrible thought to think 'what if I have infected someone' but at the end of the day, with how common this virus is, chances are, they would have got it eventually, either from yourself if it became a long term relationship as even with condoms it does happen, or from a future relationship. Yes, it was probably a mistake to have had sex without using protection, thus increasing the risk of spreading infection but you've learned your lesson, and if they're a decent and understanding person, hopefully it will work out okay :)
I too have had intercourse with a guy, knowing I was infected, without protection, but he knew I had herpes. I gave him the choice. Never did find out if he caught it. Should probably ask....