I have just had my first outbreak. My boyfriend and I broke out at the same time so we don't know who gave it to who. I was a mess when the doctor told me it could be herpes (waiting for results but she was pretty certain).
My boyfriend has been sexually active for quite a while with multiple partners so I think he came to terms with the fact that contracting this or anything could happen one day. When I told him he was absolutely fine with it (concerned with maintenance but generally fine) and assured me we would both be okay and get through it together, I'm so lucky to have him.
I have been doing lots of research. I know there are no large health concerns but I am so afraid. I was always so careful, I don't know if I got it from him or previous sexual partner. I feel so guilty even considering that I may have contracted it and given it to him.
I'm also in a lot of pain. I have an anti-viral tablet so hopefully that starts helping soon.
Any advice for soothing the pain would be really appreciated, thank you x
true, it's like you guys can support each other even though you got this virus. but first outbreak is the worst. last time i couldn't even walk properly or sit-down upright cause its really painful. but that didn't stop me from hanging out with my friends. even if its hard to walk haha but i can't tell them what is happening. so i just told them i tripped down and torn a bit of tissues underneath my crotch. they just laughed but were so caring even though they didn't know it was actually because of herpes. the outbreak stayed quiet long... for more or less its a week. OH its very VERY painful when you pee. like i always gag myself with a lot of tissue every time i peed. and i finally told one friend of mine cause i need a support from someone. he told me, hey you are strong, you can do it :) then the rest i always put on my medication, routinely check up for any improvements or other problem. the doctor gave me an ointment to put on and an anti pain tablets. also another tablets to reduce the outbreak. after routinely checkup, and the outbreak is gone, he only gave me powder drink to keep me stay fit cause being not fit can provoke another outbreak.
Peeing has been the absolute worst! I also have a desk job so sitting down all day has been so hard. It's been bad for a couple of days now but slowly getting better. The tablets I have are a 10 day dose. Hopefully it helps.
My boyfriend is really into doing a lot of online research and he has said that he will look into some natural remedies for the both of us. I can see us sharing a lot of warm salt baths in the future haha (apparently that's good for it).
It's great to hear that your friend was supportive when you told him!
I'm really scared to tell anyone in my group of friends because they were only recently making fun of a girl that they don't like about having it, honestly I made some rude comments to so here's my karma!
After researching a bit I can see that it's not this gross thing that only gross people get as it's made out to be. Hopefully, if anything, this opens my mind a bit.
All I keep thinking is 'omg this pain is never going to end!'
I KNOW RIGHT. it will, be strong!
aww you guys are so cute though. like honestly i don't have a boyfriend and so i just helped myself for everything :') so sad right. oh salt baths! I just knew that when the outbreak is gone.. lol.
YESS he's so kind and had been so caring. at first i didn't want to tell him but he said there's surely something's going on. and i thought that after i told him the truth that he will stay away from me, but no. Thankfully, he accepted me for who i am and he said that i needed to stop from having sex unless its my boyfriend for the sake of my own. cause I've been having 'friends with benefits'. but in the end its like the opposite of benefit when you know you got herpes, ****.
Also i told one of my family, my cousin. I think i can trust him. he helped me to get checkup for the first time cause like I'm underaged at that time I don't have an ID card. At that time I was 16, about to turn to 17. yeah you shouldn't be telling anyone about this. maybe just your family member, like cousin at least. the one you can really trust.
HAHAHA, it will end soon! but just remember like you have to be careful. as soon as the first outbreak is gone, you probably will have it again but this time less painful. like when you get fingered or after you just had sex. it will get sore, but keep the ointment with you! after you had sex, maybe the bumps are already there, so put it on before it gets worst. but you know its a lot more easier to treat cause the day after, its gone already :) so chillax.
I'm now actually frustrated that i can't have the freedom to have sex anymore. cause like okay I don't want my partner to know that i got herpes and i don't want to infect him. so no more option but to use condoms, then so i also can't get oral cause it will infect their mouth right. urgh. it's kind of annoying cause condoms made them feel less enjoyable during sex. THOUGH LIFE :(
Im pretty sure you can still receive oral sex even with the diagnosis! apparently its very uncommon for HSV2 to be spread to the mouth, and also your not always contagious.. you can also always use a dental dam if you're very worried
The condom thing is the worst though - I would never do to someone else what someone did to me.
ohh really it will not spread to the partner? its just like my self-esteem dropped ever since. i worried often. I've never heard of dental dam before but thanks! maybe i should try that next time hahah. yes i know right, pity the partner.