I have taken a deep breath and I'm posting this. I am female and my older sister (of 6 years) tortured me, physically, emotionally and mentally when I was a child (pre 9). I also have memories of her being sexual with me. I want to write she abused me. Did she abuse me? Is it abuse? I'm struggling with this the most.
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If you say she did, she did, I believe we have to believe and support those who say they were abused, end of story.
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@CKBlossom I have the same issue. My father abused me but I just can’t come to terms with it. I can’t even truly, mentally, acknowledge it because it hurts but I can say and write that I was. It’s a long process. I’ve been in therapy for sexual trauma specifically for 6 months and it’s been slow going. I find myself in constant state of disbelief it’s stunting my ability to “move on” and talk about it in therapy.
i am really proud of you to stand against this ....as a girl myself ..i know what it means to be objectified by others.....i really salute to you
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@Mosaic thank you
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@Mosaic I started reading that book you mentioned but I got stuck on the first chapter. It seems silly but it says that people can be abused by… and lists a whole heap of different relationships (e.g - fathers, brothers etc.). It does not say sisters and goes on to say that only a small percentage of females are the abusers. I feel like I need validation from someone that what I went through was abuse. I can’t stop listening to the voice in my head that says, you are overreacting and what happened wasn’t wrong. I just can’t seem to accept the part of me that knows what happened wasn’t right and is why I’m hurting so much.