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Can you stay with your mum, a trusted relative or a girl friend? If not ask your dr or local hospital to refer you to a social worker or appropriate person to help. You need a plan. We are here for you. We care. Let us know what happens ok?
More than likely my mom I need treatment for being addicted to him otherwise I have no clue how I'm going to ever get out
Yesterday was 2 weeks since I left. It was the best decision for me and my kids. I'm not going to sugar coat anything and say it isn't hard because it's hard as **** but it was the best decision I have ever made. Find strength from the places in you that you forgot exist. I'll be praying for you.
Get out to your mums so that you can think straight. Cut all ties if you have kids or own house or are married get good legal advice and let them fight the battle for you. It's hard but easier than living with them! And you can do it xx
I left around Christmas and went freaking 4 wks almost then I buckled .... I'm so mad at my self for going back I had been so strong and done so well :( I did it before and I have to do it again... Of course he apologized and was supper nice this AM but all I can think about is my daughter and how she will grow up thinking it's ok for a man to treat her that way because she watched daddy to it to mommy......
@Brokenwingz1986 I thought about the exact same thing. My little girl is 7 and I was not going to let her see what she should put up with and pave the way for her to find a narchole that treats her like sh*t. She is a different girl since I went grey rock (I can’t do NC with kids) You can be so strong again and you will be - it’s just a little slip. It happens don’t beat yourself up. You deserve better - we are all here for you xo
I've been down that road of him being nice and apologizing. That's what they do. They don't mean it. They know they can control you. Stay strong.
many leave two to three times be for succeeding , it is a process ...........the fear of the unknown is scary even when the known is abusive............never look at not making it successfully but testing water to success
Agreed. I left twice. My third time, there is no going back. I stood my ground and stood up for myself and others.
I have to draw the line somewhere I just wish I had stayed gone at X mas
@Brokenwingz1986 I know - i wish I never let him come back into my life 3 years ago but I did. That has been done and no amount of hoping and wishing it to be different won’t change it. Start again. Do it again and learn from before. Each time it gets a little easier and you get a little stronger. Count you achievements daily - no matter how small. I was writing down all the good things I had done in a day from making breakfast to washing and putting away kids clothes, vaccuming and making beds. Know how strong you are. It is extremely tiring being a single mum but after the sadness leaves you develop this really strong sense of determination and then you are unbreakable. Here if you need me. xo
We all wish something similar I think but don't think "I should have" or "what if". They'll only eat away at you. Focus on making a better, more healthy life for you and your daughter. She needs you most of all to be strong. Have faith.
Thank y'all ❤️❤️
@Brokenwingz1986 Best wishes for you to get away safely, and stay away
Call the police. They will get you out and to a shelter immediately. The abuse ALWAYS gets worse. It is frightening to leave ... but deadly not to. I pray for you strength and guidance. I wish you well!
brokenwingz1986- I know exactly what you are going through, i have a daughter with my boyfriend and all he does is emotionally abuse me and make me feel like a bad parent and always assumes that i cheat on him or talk to someone else online while he isnt home and ive never done anything bad to him just been trying to love him and be a family with him but its not working and i am terrified to leave him but i know i have to leave him soon and take my daughter too while she is too young to remember any of this, i know we can do this together!
I been married for28 years.....I have been emotionally and mentally abused.......some days good, but the bad days outweigh the good days.....I have talked to my spouse over and over....he was always impulsive with his damaging words, and always apologized when he calmed down....one day he threatened to do something, not to hit me, and I cried like a newborn baby in front of him and my son.....my tears dried up and I told him it was over...he didn't like it, but my fear was GONE....within 8 months I am divorced....the best decision I made in this relationship.....so don't say you can't do it, you can...yes it's hard, emotionally, but trust GOD, for your guidance
@zandaboys You are my hero!! SO glad you got out and I am jealous you got your divorce done so fast lol!! That’s awesome, I know you will now have a wonderful, peaceful life, the one God meant you to have!! I am hoping to wrap up my divorce soon (he will not cooperate, he’s on his 4th atty but this one knows mine and is pushing things along, understanding the true situation…since of course he lies to his attys and drives them crazy…his new one even asked if I new of any mental deficits in him lol!), get a new job, sell house and get out of here! My marriage was 25 years, I tried to leave over and over it was a struggle from day one. What you did was very brave and strong and I’m really happy you got free and I will pray for the healing of your heart and MUCH happiness in your future.
I need to leave so bad it got bad last night I am at my moms right now with a knot on my head :(