I heard my wife moaning in her sleep last and she said the name of the guy she had an affair with. I know it's a subconscious thing and I shouldn't be upset. I already mentioned to her so I don't build up resentment. ****! Sometimes the pain doesn't seem worth it.
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So sorry.
@Ev70
Thanks for responding so quickly.
OMG so sorry.
I hear ya. Sometimes the pain and resentment just doesn't seem worth it. It has dissipated some one year plus out
@yogini17
@yogini17
I have tried myself to move on. I have to remind myself that I chose to stick things out. IDK. I get lost sometimes. Thanks for sharing it means a lot.
That can't be easy. I think it takes longer then we realize for them to get the other person out of their minds. Especially if it was a romantic affair. They need to do the work to deal with it and put it in the past for good.
@runningfree5
I do worry that my wife hasn’t really done any mental exploring when it comes to the affair. I think it was painful for both of us and she might have just locked it away rather than confront her true feelings.
I am so sorry this happened. Try to remember she was asleep when this happened. Hang in there!
@Rasttabear
I try not to punish. I did a lot of punishing for along time. Sometimes when I bring these issues I’m having up, my wife’s reaction is to get super defensive. Marriage is tricky guys. Thank you for the perspective.