I'm just so sick of my boyfriend these days.. Things just keep getting worse and worse and I feel trapped. I'm five months pregnate and have a two year old daughter with this guy. We've been together for over three years now and it's been hell for more than half of that. The emotional abuse is totally outta control with this man. He is forever telling me how to do things the "right" way when he won't do ****, such as cleaning,or how to watch our little girl. Always making fun of my friends,all of which he has never met just to get me upset. Basically he will do/say ANYTHING to bring me down and make me feel bad. We don't even have to be fighting. I just walk into the room or in the door and there he goes again. Honestly come to think of it,I can't even remember the last time we got along for a whole day or him even saying ONE nice thing to me.. It's never "your looking nice" or "supper was good" or thanx for doing this or that" NEVER! I've been wanting to leave for a while now but how can I? I have a beautiful little girl with him who loves her daddy to death,and another one on the way to boot! I can't afford to keep up this lifestlye and know for a fact that he will make my life a living fricken hell if I leave him. ( I left him in the summer for 2 months) and all he did was call me 20 times a day, randomly show up and just drop our little one at the front steps outta no where and just leave cause he wanted to go out drinking ect.. and I don't mean once or twice,I'm talking about everyday. He's the kind of guy who's like "you wanna do something I don't like,then I'll show you!" The issue is this..I havn't and won't ever bring myself to his level (though I want too sooooo bad over the years) and just do a bunch of crazy **** back to him!! But thats not me..Just wish he could feel the way I do all these years.. Anyways,it's like this..I'm really getting to the end with this **** and don't even know where to start and feel like it's just too much to even try. What to do??? THanx 4 listening and ANY advice on what I should do I'm thank-ful for... waiting to hear from anyone who will/did listen... Thanx
I totally feel for you. I was in a relationship similar to this in the past. Luckily, we didn't have kids together. All I can tell you, is you don't deserve it. If you separate from him, and he wants to go be an ***, then fine...you deserve better than that!! I got to that point and went to a Women's Shelter, where I was provided with a lot of support. He was still "so sorry, and pleading for me back..." His attitude towards you is not right. The hard part is, is even if your daughter adores him, kids pick up on their parents behavior. It's unhealthy, and even every little bit of tension kids can feel it. Just keep your chin up, be strong, and fight for what you are worth!
Sometimes men are so stupid they don't realize what they're doing and sometimes you have to give them a taste of there on medicine in a good way. I notice everytime I do that to a boyfriend the waiter on me hand and foot and maybe you just feel like that and insecure because you're prego and hormones all over the place and it probably rubs off on him. Just find things to take your mind off of it you know spend less time around him and more time focusing on your kids and if he does not wanna get left behind he'll come around