I just wanted to check in with my supporters. Thank you all for being there during my dark time. You gave me strength when I had none, you picked me up when I was brought to my knees. You listened with your hearts to my tears. For this I thank each and everyone of you more than you could ever know. Xxx my hubby and I in a far better place, I've learnt to not let this control me anymore, I'm free to live a better life than what I had, I'm not the same person anymore, I'm better, stronger and smarter. Hubby and I are happy together we have an amazingly healthy and strong relationship now. We made it!!! To the new comers I'm proof that it can be over come. This doesn't have to defy you as a person, you are worth so much more than that. Kisses to all. Xxxx
So happy for you Kiwi! I am so glad that you and your husband are putting your life back and that going forward hopefully everything will be a lot more even keel! I hope you will continue to post, it is such a relief to newcomers to know there is hope, so thank you for that! Hugs-CK
@CKarma thanks honey, I cannot take all the credit, my marriage would not be at the point it’s at if my hubby wasn’t willing to step up. It’s a time like this that separates the men from the boys. I saw her the other day for the first time since I found out. She took off pretty quick and that action gave me strength. She tried to take my hubby but at the end of the day I won, this along gives me strength. So the jokes on her. She made a fool of herself not me. Kama came back and bit her when she saw us.
YAY!!!! I'm so glad to hear it!! I hope, in time, that you will hear a similar message from me!
@trikel sweetie only you know what you are willing to put up with and for how long, this is your choice you are strong and you can do whatever you feel is right. My hubby cut off contact with her the moment I found out, this is key to our healing and moving forward. You cannot make someone do something they are not willing to do. Counselling was the key for my hubby as I just couldn’t get through to him. Try yo get your hubby there remember you can’t make him go but keep trying softly.
@Yodafan it’s a hell of a ride, but hang in there hon, but know that you are strong enough to walk away when you feel the time is right for you. The key is to distance your emotions from the affair once you are able to do that strength follows from within. And then choices can be made in which ever direction you decide to go.
@IamTitanium you are doing pretty great yourself from what I’ve read, keep posting I love the insight on the questions you are asking, it makes one search deep inside to find their answers. I may not respond to your questions but I do think about my answer. I love this approach you are using.
This is wonderful! So great to hear the success stories! You definitely won but he is the lucky one!! Never forget that for an instant! Xx
@Teeny bikini so glad to see you back babes XXX:-)
You are an inspiration to us all...thanks for your uplifting post!
@MoonStone2 it can be done, posting good news is very important to others healing, that’s why I did this.
Your posting brings tears to my eyes. You give me hope that the pain and constant replaying of the facts will subsided. I want so much to get there.
@JBT it will I promise, just hang in there. I’m here if you need me.
I am so sorry Elyse. Hang in there!
You are so strong! I, of course, despise the other women, but find it easier to forgive them than my husband. The OW did not vow to love me, protect me till death do us part. The OW did not share a life with me or know my secrets. They did not even know me. You have such strength. I am working on forgiving the OW first to ban them from my life. I still have no idea if my husband will remain either for he is the one who betrayed ME.
@Elyse1975 I understand where you are coming from. I truly know the hurt you are feeling and the feeling of betrayal from your husband. But honey at the end of the day he is the one that can help you. Even though he did this, he can help fix it also. Holding on to this anger will only push you two further apart and then there is no coming back for either of you. You need to work as a team to help each other over come this. As much as you don’t want to hear this you need him as much as he needs you right now. I’m assuming the ow knew about you, and yet she still chose to pursue your husband, all bets are off as far as she was concerned, she played a huge roll in this also. You don’t have to forgive her, you owe her nothing. Not your time, not your patience, not your energy. If you need to be angry, be angry at her, she knew only to well what she was doing also and yet decided to not give you a second thought. I will never forgive my husbands ow, I don’t have to, she is not my problem she can run around doing whatever the heck she wants to, I just don’t care. My husband is the one I care about, value and made those vows to, he is the one I choose to focus on, not her she doesn’t deserve my time of day. So I move on with my life, and she will never be apart of it ever again because I chose this, not him and certainly not her.