I Love my son, he's the only thing that's getting me through everything. I just hate the fact that I still have to see and communicate with his dad. I can be doing so good then the hurt and pain comes rushing back. I just want to get over it all but I know it will take some time. It would be easier if I didn't have to see or talk to him.
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maybe easier in the short term , but all that pain, and hurt is still there. Being able to see him, while painful, can be an effective way to work through the hurt. remember to be kind to yourself, and notice how far you have come.
To: akana91 -- Does your "pain" come from still being in love w/your son's dad? Whether or not, do your very best for your son. Make his life easier by getting along w/his dad & never badmouth him in front of your son. Keep most or all of your venting on this site (away from your son) where you'll get support & empathy. Accept the FACT you're moving THRU a painful process, right now, & remember that each day is bringing you closer to peace once again. In the meantime, enjoy the precious time you have w/your son. Kids grow up soooo fast. :(
The pain comes from being cheated on throughout the whole marriage and pregnancy. That's why seeing him brings that back. I have some good then some bad
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@akana91 The fact that you have “some good then some bad” indicates you’re moving on from your experience. Just hang in there like you’re doing, & one day you’ll be free again. Same thing happened to me when I was young. I thought my world had ended at the tender age of 25, but I couldn’t have been more wrong. You have your whole life ahead of you. But, time does fly by quickly. Do all you can to cast off your past hurts & focus on your goals & dreams. It will be easier in time. My best to you.
Thank you @aura82
Thank you standinginfaith
@akana91 I feel the same way. Just being in the same house is just torture. And to try and be civil to one another knowing he Hates me and looks at me with disgust. Then hovering over the kids while I’m doing something with them. You are right that I wish he after all this I dont have to deal with him but unfortunately we have to for the kids