I´m a incest survivor. I was raped and sexually abused by several guys including my father from the age of 3 untill 16 ( i only told a doctor a few months ago). When i was 13 i got pregnant by my father i told people it was a boy´s from school child. Everyone believed and everyone locked at me like i was crazy, but they didnt know what i was going trough. I was pregnant with a baby boy and at 6 months i got a miscarriage. It hurted so bad, I loved that baby so much, i didnt feel alone anymore, i feel like i had someone that was going to love me. But I had an abortion. A few months ago i went to the hospital because i had fever and stomach pain and they found out I was pregnant. They said that i had the possibility of having an abortion, they asked me who´s baby was that, that they see i was already pregnant years before, to tell them the truth. and for the first time I told someone. Everyone was saying to have an abortion that i couldnt have an incest baby. That i was ruining my life and a babys life. People say it was better i had an miscarriege when i was 13, that i was 2 young, that im stupid for felling any type of love for that baby, that im a horrible person for even wanted to have that baby, for felling bad of having a miscarriege, are they right? Was that a good thing and im just exagerating and am i a bad person for wanting to have that baby at 13? Do i have something wrong? I didnt got an abortion this time. Im 7 months pregnant ( when i went to the hospital i was 3 months pregnant) with another baby boy. Im i a bad person for bringing this baby to this planet, should i have aborted a few months ago, im a a bad person for having my fathers baby that is technically my brother? Im a a bad person for felling love for this baby? for waiting to stay with this baby, and raise him and love him? am i a bad person for talking to this baby, for thinking that its not his fault, and i will be able to give him some kind of love and a happy and good life? im i being selfish because everyone say im being selfish, that im a bad person, that im doing the wrongthing, that this is a mistake and an incest baby cant see the light of day because is a nature freak, that i need to gave him for adoption, that i am as much bad as my dad for having this baby and love him. They are saying that i liked it because im having his baby. I am 16, i was taken away from my mom and my dad is in jail, im in a foster home now and my foster "parents" are the ones who are no judging me. Im working and going to school for trying to raise some money for the baby and my foster parents say they will help me. But now i need your opinion am i being a bad, selfish, horrible person? am i not normal? am i stupid or weird for wanting this baby? Should i do what they say and give the baby for adoption even if i want to stay with him? Am i weird for talking to him, love him and wainting to have a baby in reasult from incest and rape? Am i weird for feeling bad and depressed for waiting to have that baby a few years ago? Am i a bad person? Does anyone in here as a child result from rape and incest? Should i keep the baby? Am i doing the right thing? Should i give this baby for adoption even if i dont want to? Can someone please help!!!!!!!!! Sorry for my english but my first language isnt english.
First off your English is great. I have been raped twice but neither time was from incest. I believe it is great that you have love for your baby and that you are trying to do the right things in life for it. I don't agree that you are ever too young to have an unplanned child if you have the right support system. I think as sad as it may be giving your child up for adoption might be the best for them. To grow up in a stable environment where they don't know they were a result of rape and abuse. It would be very hard to keep that a secret from your child and it would probably cause them major emotional damage. Sometimes to be the best parent you can be means giving you child up to people who love them as much as you do. It will also be very hard long term to support your child if you are unable to finish school due to having to work. I am so sorry to hear about your situation but you should never blame yourself. You obviously love your child regardless of how it was created and you are trying to do the right thing. Never feel guilty for your emotions if they are out of love. If you do plan to keep it please seek out support systems like a psychiatrist as this is the best method for starting to recoup from such a long and undesirable childhood. I am glad you are being given support by your foster parents and that you are out of that terrible situation.
@Rewindit hi thnx for replaying. Yeah i guess u right i just need to really think about those things and see whats best for me and my baby. i´m already in a psychiatrist but she only gives me pills and i only go there once a month if i´m lucky. I know i shouldnt blame myself but there´s always a voice in my head telling me it is. I just dont know what to do and i´m so confused and scared. And yeah in these 4 months im in my foster home they have been more parents to me that my parents ever were. And what makes it worse is that its my fathers and i dont know what i would tell my baby, i just dont know. You dont think im just a bad person? or disgusting or dirty and that? thnx for replaying
I've been through something similar. I was raped by a lot of people over several years, at 13 I got pregnant and lost my son. I loved him so much. It is not crazy, he was your son and always will be. Feel free to come talk to me any time xx
No one should call anyone a bad person for wanting their child under any circumstance. You do what's best for you. And if you feel that this baby will bring you joy don't worry about what people say. Have it. Its yours. People always have something negative to say when there not in the situation the other person is in. So ignore them and enjoy your child despite the circumstances it was conceived under.
Sometimes the choice of your happiness and your childs can be a little more difficult.
Your body, your baby and your choice. No one can tell you what you can and can't do. Just finish school and save up money and get all the support you can.