I'm 22 year old college student. I find out Wednesday I have herpes. I find out when I went to Health Department. That day I felt like the world was going to end I left like my life is over. Right now I am so scared cause I want to have children, but I cant have any unless I give my partner herpes. I dont wanna do that. I dont know how I got herpes I wish I knew who I got it from. I have a lot of hate for person who gave this to me. I always have my partner wear a condom I just dont know how I got it. I dont have support group in my state. So I saw this website I really need some friends who understand what I am going though. I scared to tell my friends that I have herpes if I do they will tell other people. I dont want to get out that I have herpes. I dont know if I have herpes one or two. Please help me I still cry know that I have herpes.
I am so sorry you have that. Do you have any idea of who gave it to you? This is a really good website, you will meet a lot of good people on here... I don't have herpes or any other std, but you can message me anytime if you need someone to talk to... My heart goes out to you. Maybe you will find someone else who has it and then you don't have to worry about giving your partner herpes because he will already have it. I am so sorry you have that.
I recently found out that I have herpes as well. I want to tell you not to cry. It's going to be ok. But I know how you feel.
You will still be able to have children. Herpes will not prevent that. You can take medicine while your pregnant and just before the delivery so that you will not pass the virus to the baby. There is also the option of a C-section. I've read everything I can on the internet about herpes. There is a lot of useful information out there.
Like you, I do not know who I got it from. I didn't know you could get it while using a condom. I understand your fear of passing it on. But it is possible to have sex with someone who is not infected and never pass it to them. Or like Melissa said, you could become involved with someone who has it and then you wouldn't have to worry about passing it to someone else.
If you are scared to tell your friends and are afraid that they will tell others. Then don't tell your friends. You do not have to tell your friends anything that your don't want them to know.
I hope I helped to ease your mind a little. Talking about it helps. That's what we are all here for =)
Thank You I am not going to tell my friends and families it just between my mom and I. The doctor told me I can still have children and have a C-section. I look up a lot information about herpes so have my mom. I think it just fact that I have it. I talk to some of guys I had sex with and they told me they got tested it came back negative. I feel like one of them is lie to me. I see someone I didnt tell him I have herpes I just told him I have disease that will never go away and that I can give it to you if we have sex with no condom. He look up a lot of information about STD and all the disease and he still right beside me I thankful for that. He know if we get married and have children he will get what I have. I dont want to give it to him. I saw some online dating site with people with STD and Herpes I think about sign up and see what happen. I feel like best thing is find someone who have what I have and I would feel little better about it.
you can still have sex during ttc and not pass it on to you partner. my boyfriend had it 4 years before he eventually passed it on to me only because we had sex and he was having an active outbreak. at the time i didnt know he had it , but as it later turned out i got it from him. be strong , watch what you eat and avoid sex anytime you feel the itchiness. you will be able to have kids . sometimes i accept that i have it but sometimes it just hurts , and it has strained my relationship. first oubreak is the worst. just be glad you have someone who understands
Its so heartbreaking!
Most important thing to know is that condoms do not protect against spreading this disease.
That what I scared to have sex I dont want to give anybody the disease I have. Sunday my boyfriend broke up with me I feel like the world is going to fall on me. I join a date website with people who have herpes but there is not many in my area that I can hook up with. I have a friend Erik he a great guy and he care for me he want to get serious with me and all that, but I dont want to have sex with him and give him the disease. I honest dont know what to do.
I will be your friend. :)
Thank You Sophia123 I need a friend to talk to and text and just be around people who understand what all people who have herpes.
My husband has herpes, we have been together 7 years and I have not caught it and we have 2 children... you can have children if you have herpes and you can have a sexual relationship without giving it to your partner... this is not the end... I know you feel like everybody can tell just by looking at you... but it will get better and you can live a normal life, I promise.
Try not to focus on having sex.
But make sure you a responsible with your new disease, if everyone was, we wouldnt be in this position.
And why arent guys concerned with this stuff??? they are majority of the spreaders!
Thank JessicaC I look into more information about herpes and see what I can do and what not to give my partner. I know for one thing I dont want to have sex until I have a engagement ring on my finger and I have sex on my honeymoon. Have this disease have made me open my eyes with respect for people and not to judge people by how they look. I know I am going to have normal life and just do the same things I been doing. I read everybody post and it make me realize that I am not the only one and I have respect for everybody in this support group.
Faith88 you can talk to me whenever. I am going through the same. Its scary. You need constant support, I know. We are all here for each other.
Yes I agree it very scary
I just found out today that I have herpes. Well, the doctor said, "I think you have herpes, thats what it looks like. Have you had herpes before?" I was in complete shock. I thought I had a cut from shaving or got a cut during sex. I am still freaking out. I have been crying all day. I just lost a loved one very unexpectantly and now this. I am so depressed. I told my boyfriend and as soon as he got home he just got in bed and hasn't really spoke to me since.
i wouldnt mind being ur friend im also looking for friends to talk to about the same situation i have herpes to but im not mad and dont regret it i take it as a lesson and just learn from it, anytime u wanna talk i will be around to answer and if i dont answer i will eventually answer cause i like to clean and help my mom out.. anyways have a great day and godbless and memeber u are not alone many blessings
I wished you didn't have so much hatred for who gave it to you. They most likely didn't know. And if they did know they had it and knowingly passed it on...well they have to live with themselves, not you. It won't change the present.
Hang in there. Keep reading through, herpes is just another fact of life for us. Its not the end of the world :) We're all still here. Many happily in a sexual relationship. With kids.
Hi I feel u 110% for real u jus have to pray and be strong my friends don't kno either jus my brother he is my support system but u can email mr anytime I always want someone to talk to ESP. Since we have alot to talk about but smile its the best medicine
Well I'm here for you I feel just how you feel maybe we could get through this together
This virus has been around since the days of the bible. Anyone knowingly passing it is a terrible person, possibly in denial that they have it or can pass it on. I hated the person that gave it to me, and I know exactly who it was, I got the blisters the day after we fooled around. But over the last few years, I have forgiven her, she may not have known she had it, or at least, not that she was contagious when we were together. All you can do is figure out how to manage it and move forward with your life. as time passes, you will have fewer and fewer outbreaks. you will learn your triggers and avoid them (chocolate and peanuts) and learn to live a healthy lifestyle, 8 hours of sleep. lots of water, no smoking or drinking, boosting your immune system. don't give up on life or love just yet~PS Ive had this for 25 years....got it when i was 24