I need help or our marriage is over

I don’t know what to do… I have been compulsively shopping for some years now. It has gotten substantially worse after I found out my husband was cheating on me when he went back to Michigan and has been a porn/Sex addict since the beginning of our marriage. He constantly belittles me and treats me like shit. We have not had intimacy for months now and I also believe he is cheating with same sex. What do I need to get help? I am at my wits end and Im ready to leave but I need to get help with my finances

sorry to hear about his addiction. For yourself, it sounds like it is time to start looking at ways to budget and save money. Look at programs online to start with, sometimes churches or non profits offer classes to help you with that. Dave Ramsey is one that i used about 7 years ago. It helped to save me from overspending.