I'm not sure if this goes under this support group or not, but I got involved with a guy 3 years ago. He dated my sister, and a little while after they broke up I got with. Well I never slept with him or anything, but he wanted to sleep with me. After several months of him and I texting and talking on the phone, my mom went through my phone and found all the phone-sex he sent to me. My mom took my phone a way from me for awhile, and when I got it back we started talking again. I wanted to have a serious relationship with him, and he said he wanted the same thing from me. He told me recently he wanted us to just be friends, and then told me he wanted to have sex with me. Him and I have dated before, and he ended up cheating on me and breaking up, but we remained friends. Everytime I see him with another girl it hurts me. I know he has just been playing me and that's it. Why can't I let him go? I want to get him out of my life, and stop being his friend, or have any other relationship with him. I don't know how to let him go, but I really do need to. When I see him with other girls, it makes me feel like I'm not worth anything, and I don't deserve anybody good. I don't know what to do. Please help me get better.
i hate guys like that. i used too have an ex that wanted to sleep with me and i was like 15.i wouldnt sleep with him so he called me a biit** and told me to make it down a ramp like the tramp that i was. he woulld call my house when i would hang up on him i would have to go for a walk i was so upset. well later on he got with my stepsister and had 3 kids with her. he and her are seperated now so he has tried to be smooth and come on to me again and i blew him off. i hav3 been happily married for7 years. these kind of guys arent worth your time and you can find somebody who is and will respect you and treat you good. you deserve better. tell yourself that you are beauiful everyday and you deserve better and will do better. wishing you the best.
Thanks Ashley. I'm 16 and he is 21 so it's illegal for him to be with me, but I have been trying to protect him ever since we started talking, and it's like I'm over that. I was 14 and he was 19 when I started talking to him. He was the first guy that I ever fell in love with, so it's hard for me to let go, but I have got to. I'm trying to find somebody and not having that good of luck, I keep getting the wrong guys. The guy I got involved with is not even cute or anything, so I don't know what I was thinking lol. Thank you so much Ashley.
i had a situation that is similar to yours also. i had a guy i was going out with when i was 15 yet again and he was 20. so it was illegal for us to be going out as well. i tried to protect him also and he was a loser. he was physically abusive to me. my mom eventually found out his age and called the police had them arrest him to scare him to leave me alone. he ended up going to prison because he stole a friends car. he was a real loser. at the time i was upset and thought i would never find a better person in the world but i DID. my husband. he treats me with respect and love and takes good care of me. the other guy i went out with also cheated on me all of the time. i was lucky i didnt catch something from him. try to keep in mind things happen for a reason and annalyze your situation and know that it is for the best. you may not feel like that for a long time but eventually it does get better. i am here whenever you need to talk.
Melissa,
The best way to get him out of your life is to move on and give it time. It will not happen in the snap of a finger like we want it to. But it will happen. Plenty of people out there girl. It is obvious that he only wanted one thing. I do however find it odd that you date your sister's ex. Glad it didn't cause issues with you guys. Best of luck girl, and remember there is someone out there for everyone. You just have to get through the weeds to see the flower.
Thanks Ashley! I'm glad you found someone that treats you good.
Thanks healedbyfaith. He did only want one thing, and he never got it from me thank goodness. My sister didn't really care until she found out the texts he was sending to me. Thanks girl.
thanks hun and i know you will find someone who will treat you good as well. :)
Thanks! I'm really glad you are on here, because you have made me feel better alot of times.
aww your welcome hun. im just trying to be honest and let you know there are good people out there and that there is hope. i am glad that it makes you feel better. im glad to help ya out.
Thanks! I'm here for you also if you ever need someone to talk to.
thank you :)
Your welcome!
I just looked on this guy's facebook page and saw he has another girlfriend. I shouldn't care, but why do I? Why does it hurt so bad? I wish I could just get over him, I don't know why I can't. I feel like there is something wrong with me of why he doesn't want to be with me, and I can't get over him. I wish I could just forget about him.
sometimes it takes awhile for our hearts to heal hun. sometimes it is hard to let go our mind says we want to but our heart says no. just take one day at a time hun. i wish things were easier for you and did hurt so bad. i remember those hurts and i understand what you are going through. thank the lord time heals all things. sometimes we just wish they would go a little faster. again im sorry for your heartache and know that you will eventually find a wonderful person and you'll look back and think im glad im over that. :) its hard to see it that way now i understand. one day at a time hun.
Melissa Lynne
25 yrs ago i met a guy fell in love with him (si I thought was love) . Before we were ever married we broke up several times he screwed around on me 6 times yes UGH! And stupid me kept taking him back. Some of those other relationship flings he had became sexual. Out of the 6 I believe 2 for sure(one with a stripper) possibly more became sexual.
It took me way too many yrs to see what he was and that he made me feel like I had no worth...but one day reality hit me what I was stuck in and l got out.
There are plenty of guys that will love you and cherish you ..if you enable them to treat you in any disrespectful way you are not valuing your worth and honey you are Worthy of more .
Don't let anyone treat with disrespect if he can't respect you then he is not worth your time...I know its hard to move on but if you are feeling this is wrong then only you can take the steps to get out of the relationship.
Love AG♥
Thank you so much Ashley! You always make me feel better :)
Thanks anonymous girl! I'm sorry you went through all that! Thanks for the advice! I don't know what is wrong with guys lol. Thank you, that helped me alot!