I need someone to help me stop thinking of wanting to go back to my abuser. He has emotionally abused of me has cheated and lied to me. My life is a non existing life since I left him. I feel lost dont know what to do with my life. He isolated me from my friends and things I would do. So now all I do is think of him. He still wants me to go back to him but I know it's not the right thing even though I really want to. I hate this feeling my head just gets in a big cloud. He is not a good person to me he really messed me up.
I fight that same fight. Some moments are so clear and I am so convicted that I never want anything to do with him ever again and then other times, quite honestly, now, I am thinking how I miss him and does he miss me. It is a cloud. It helps to be on here whether to post or just read. The cloud dissipates.
@shanybells I wrote in the wrong place. I did a post instead of a reply.
Thanks. My situation is that I see him everyday at work he constantly tries to talk to me and convience me I need to go back with him does not leave me alone. I miss him like you can not imagine but then I say to my self how can I want someone in my life like that. He isolated me so I feel so lost I'm slowly and not fast enough building my own life. When I was with him it was all about him all the time I allowed him to control and munipulate me. Why am I so dependent to someone like that. I hate him for the things he has made me go threw. When I was with him I felt sufercated, gained weight was depressed, high blood pressure. Why do I feel like this. I just want to forget him and not miss him at all. I also feel so lonely it's horrible. I hate this so much.
@lissi3948 even though it’s hard, try to change some of the habits that have you seeing him frequently (take lunch break in a different place, take a walk on short breaks). If I saw “him”, I seemed to only think about the good times and it was so tempting. Sometimes getting away from the environment helps me to refocus and center myself. Staying busy helps too.
Please dont return to someone who has brought you nothing but pain, if nobody can bring you peace or happiness then they dont deserve to be in your life at all
I do the same thing, try to distract myself with someone elses attention usually guys to take my mind of it, my ex tried to convince me to cease contact with a lot of frineds and family and my relationships with them are damaged because of it, do not go back to him, you may feel bad but not as bad as you will if you go back.
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He is so convincing and he has done so much to me and I still miss him. Why do I continue feeling this way allow to be disrespected and mistreated. He is controlling. I hate him I wish I did not have to see him at work everyday.