I opened up my email and got a message from an old app I installed on his phone some time ago. Well there it was, he has been messaging women for the past two days he has been gone. How bad he wants them etc. I barfed my guts out. So sad that he can't even wait until I am gone.
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This should be a clear statement of the person you were dealing with.. I know mine would do the same as soon as I leave. Be happy he is no longer your toxic mess to deal with.
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@hopewhispers I am here with nothing not even a phone and he is asking women out.
I am so sorry you have to go through this and completely understand how you feel. You must have had an inclination of his actions and this validates your suspicions. I had done something similar with my ex narc many years ago, I had all his emails copied and sent to mines. I had discovered exchanges of emails with other women as he was attempting to obtain other supply while still with me. I confronted him, he denied, talked his way out of it, and I forgave him and went back. I decided to trust him and cancelled his forwarding emails. Let me assure you, it'll never ever change! They will always be looking for viable supply. I wished I walked away then and took it as a blessing, because I continued in this torturous narcissistic relationship and it only got painfully harder to leave and his infidelity continued, along with the abuse. Please, realize your self worth and that you are deserving of much more.
@Alynn He’s emailing me calling me a witch and to f off. Why? Because he got caught, that’s why.
You must feel very confused .. I am so sorry you have to experience this ..
No contact.. takes all their power away. You in turn get power back.. Block his number .
I don't have a phone. This is through email. I am very confused.
@rumad
What are you confused about? I know the truth really hurts, the betrayal and lies. See this as a blessing, an omen. You were given the truth and its up to you, how to deal with it. I chose initially to ignore the truth, made excuses on his behalf, brushed it under the rug, so to speak, forgot about it, and his actions only continued for years and years. What kind of life is it to constantly be wondering if he is continuing to pursue other women behind your back?
When he exposes what he's really like, he removes any doubt you may have had that you are making the right choice. This will help you heal and move on.
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@osmom He is a real jerk.
I left when mine threw me into a door 10 years ago and 2 years ago I found out he was hurting our kid.
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@osmom
It’s so very disheartening that his rage not only was geared towards you but extended to your child as well. I am so very sorry. I’m glad you’re out of the relationship.
Luckily I wasn't the only person he told. He didn't want to tell anyone else but he agreed to and because of that, he is safe and has been for 2 years. Unfortunately, parents are powerless. You cannot accuse an ex without physical evidence without being scrutinized for parental alienation. Somethings I did along the way was have a therapist for myself and my son so I had a lot of documented history of trouble. I knew his dad was a bully but I had no idea it was so much worse. Having those records and ongoing court conflict and a therapist who would help me respond to unhealthy in a healthy way so that I had zero history of being baited into making myself look bad, it's been all business.
@osmom
I’m so relieved to hear that your son is now safe. It took a lot of courage for your son to speak up on his ordeal and wise of you, to seek a 3rd party, a therapist in documenting history occurrences. I’m glad it all went well on your son’s behalf.
Seems you went with a player..do not barf
My last year with my ex narc was one of the best ones....so i thought. only to find out thru his facebook emails that he had been flirting with his next victim. He told her that he has been trying to leave me for the past year and that he felt sorry for me. Reading this was the last straw. 11 years of putting up with him and now my daughters listening to how he played with my emotions was enough.
I hope you follow your gut feelings and believe that you are worth so much more and that you are able to have the peace that you deserve.
I am still working on it. It is very difficult, but I am not loosing hope.
@silvio Thank you for your kind words. It is killing me inside and he is laughing at me.
I know the feeling.
Don't buy it