I recently cut contact with my narcissistic mom. Im 22 and now she is spreading rumors to the rest of my family. Once again playing the victim. How to I get them to understand I'M NOT CRAZY. They all think she is supermom. :(
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Perhaps in this instance the less action you take, the better. Convince them indirectly, by showing control over your life.
@tabbylady Thanks so much. I really needed that. I get to feeling so helpless sometimes. I told my aunt, we’ve always been close who is just a few years older than me about what was going on. I sent her an article about the family dynamic with a maternal narc and even let her read the convo that lead up to me deciding to cut contact. But still my aunt was so sad that I wouldn’t have a relationship with my mom(" She’s your mom and you only get one"). I tried explaining to her what she saw of our relationship was fake but I’m not sure if it stuck. This got me discouraged especially since we grew up together and she has never been close to my mom. Plus I keep asking myself if I’m doing the right thing. I’m the oldest and have always gotten the worst of the abuse. My sister graduated and moved out/cut contact a couple weeks ago. I told myself I would stick around this long for her. My two younger sisters were sent to a mental hospital(a questionable event) and eventually were adopted with the consent of my parents, I haven’t had contact with them in three years but their new mom sends me pictures occasionally, I know they have received therapy. But now I have a 10 year old mentally handicapped brother at home and another one in preschool. The guilt and conflict I’m feeling is overwhelming.