So i woke up today, like, one hour prior to writing this, and my head wakes up thinking a lot, for some reason the thought of today is that im a bloody loser by today’s standard, im 26 with no job, i live with my mom and i pay some of the bills, i have achieved nothing in life yet, nothing that others did with the same amount of time, am i going to be one of those late boomers who will achieve something they like at 40?50? Or will i never get anything? I still have no idea what i want to do, specially cuz i dont think i want to do anything thats available. I wasnt feeling like this is true when i began thinking about it but it might be true, and i think i will keep speding my life away bc that is what i know how to do and it scares me a lot to remember that i will die and thats it, i dont know what comes after it. Dating someone who will turn 21 doesnt seem to help, he knows more of what he wants and it is willing to do something of his life, makes me want to go back to my 21 year old me and do something, i think i want to do something but everything seems hard, it will take long, do i just make to many excuses? I def i need help from someone, will a psychologist help me at all? How long will it take? Some questions dont need answers but others do, being alive is too complicated
what did people do before the Industrial Revolution? they did house chores, wrote poetry, fought wars…it is all just a different time. dont measure your worth based on what you’ve DONE, rather than who you ARE, because that is the only thing thats IMMORTAL
Im also nothing…
OH no you aren’t! Nobody is nothing! I guarantee with 100% certainty that you have something to offer someone, or to the world in general. Just by being here on SG, talking to us and sharing your experiences you are contributing to the general mental health of the population. A (good) psychologist would definitely help: they can point out things about yourself that you’ve never considered, and give you exercises (homework) to help strengthen your self-confidence. Try to notice the contributions you make on a daily basis: paying some of the bills, for example.
Your comment: “i think i want to do something but everything seems hard” suggests to me that you are suffering from depression, and there are definitely things you can do for yourself that will help alleviate that - starting with a little more attention to positive things in your life. A psychologist is likely to be useful here too.
Wishing you a better state of being 
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You are not a loser I used to think that but I’ve been going to a counselor and it does help and I’ve had my eyes opened up a lot of things what’s happening to my life for years I blamed myself everything on a my life and I was made the playing it was a meter playing
I’ve got Autism ADHD dyslexia but I learned a lot of things by Mick with taught me things tight with a make my dyslexia as well
I’m 50 in a beginning of realised I’ve missed out and I because of my negative out look on life but go for counseling with the best thing you’ve ever did
I know now when I get myself recovery properly I want to go into funeral home care looking after dead people because I think the realised the unless app then the living but it’s Swing Out into the long time ago but I was 12 stupid and backward I couldn’t do that I know different now
But definitely see a therapist for counseling because it’s the only way forward a taught me a long time to realise that you we made me of me do on miss out and life like I did you Twenties do not let anyone stop you from having a life like I did because social service they are damaged to me they’re not let me have friends do not have boyfriends because we’ve put in the middle Hospital the other ones that messed up not me I just got lost in the system but please do want let things escalate like I did go for counselling please see a doctor tell them you need counseling or go to on the counselling places where you live if you can I find a friend that can help you
I hear you—feeling like a “loser” can be really heavy, especially when comparing yourself to others. Remember, everyone has their own journey and timeline. It might be helpful to talk to someone who can guide you, like a professional at comprehensive psychiatric services. They can help you sort through these feelings and figure out what you want to pursue. Change takes time, but taking that first step can lead to new possibilities. You’re capable of more than you think!
What did you and your counselor discussed that made you move forward?