I think I'm a 'passive' narcissist. I.e. my tendency is to have audacity to believe that most things are 'my' fault as opposed to being one to hugely blameful of others, which I'm wanting to refer to as 'aggressive narcissism.' Are such descriptions palpable or in any other way legitimate technically or clinically?
Good question and makes me think. But I think you are empathethic and taking all the blame. Don't think that makes you a narc. Narcs don't feel empathy for others or feel remorse for hurting others. Narcs blame others even when it's their own actions
I'm also 'Borderline', and I CAN be ambitiously blameful and blunt, whereby I ultimately 'sabotage,' but it's not my 'default' way. I've done though too much lately after marrying and divorcing a girl whom I feel I just simply had to depart from - for the sakes of us BOTH. Now she practically OWNS, seemingly at least, practically everyone whose respect I've ever desired. (Sorry I'm typing so slowly; I only have an on-screen keyboard at the moment.) But, thank you for comments. She HAD compassion and significant generosity - but, it often came off to me as too 'artificial and/or evasive.'
By definition, Narcissists are incapable of accepting blame of any kind. They see themselves as so vastly superior to other people that the thought of them ever being wrong about anything isn't a reality they are psychologically equipped to handle. Other personality disorders can mimic s/s of Narcissistic Personality Disorder; the only way to be sure is to see a professional who can actually make the diagnosis.
Nothing was ever her fault behind the wheel, I can assure you.