I tried letting my partner comfort me and hold me for the first time since I found out he cheated. I could only handle his touch for a few minutes before I couldn't take it anymore and had to walk away. I feel like I'll never be able to let him hold me again :(
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Remember that this is all new. You handled that well. If you are focused on making the marriage work, continue to walk away when you feel frustrated. You'll feel better, but remember that time is the only thing that will help you.
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You're tense. Next time do some stretching and breathing first. Be aware of your body. Also, you're probably afraid to let go of the anger. Anger is not protecting you. Don't deprive yourself of comfort. So what if his hug makes you cry? Cry in his arms. You don't have to be alone in this. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable again.
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If he is doing the right things, it will come. It takes so effort to let yourself be vulnerable enough to let the one who hurt you comfort you. Take your time with it.
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I'm in a similar place- I gave him a tiny little kiss as he left our lunchdate, and it kind of soured my afternoon.
We have family visiting in a couple of days which means he'll have to move back into our/my bedroom. I'm sure not ready for that, but explaining to his fam would be even worse. Grr.
We need a rewind button. That's it.
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These things take time if he's trying to comfort you it may be a sign he knows he screwed up if you need to walk away do so as time goes on let him try again space and time space and time
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