I want to stop having gay sex behind my wife's back, but it is so hard to stop!!
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Why don't you just tell your wife that you're gay?
If you want to be faithful to your wife. You must show some self control.
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I have found conditioning helps if you stop fantasizing about men it helps in my experience
If you are serious about stopping you need to realize you are in complete control, if you truly want to stop, then stop... Delete all gay dating apps like grindr and tinder don't go on Craigslist don't go to gay bars... Just get it all out of the way
Next if you have an urge, masturbate don't cheat but don't masturbate to men masturbate to women or even photos of your wife it's almost like conditioning yourself ... If you associate your wife with pleasure subconsciously you will desire her more. If she isn't as sexually active as you just use masturbation as a way to release your frustrations but do it to women ... Don't feed the fire, don't feed ur homosexual desires with reward
Worked for me when I decided to stop cheating with guys...
The conditioning helped because when my hookups would message me I had less or no desire to engage in activity with them
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@rdunsel You know the quote, "to thine own self be true? " Are you gay or bisexual. If you loved your wife, tell her the truth. In the meanwhile, you are putting her health in jeopardy by having sex with other men. What about STD's? What @Discreetbigguy posted is helpful, but what about being faithful, and honest in a marriage? Man up, my friend. Be honest with the woman you promised to love, and be faithful to, till death do you part.......
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@skhc true but sometimes people need to hear the truth and the truth hurts. Most who do constantly cheat don't take their wives or husbands into account when they cheat. it is a selfish act. I pray he can stop and that his wife never finds out but as a wife who has found out it hurts like hell being the one who was always there and who did everything cleaned took care of the kids was loyal to the bitter end... he needs to know and if he were a friend id tell him the same thing to his face. either stop or let her go. make a decision. don't be married and live the life of a single person it only brings strife.
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Maybe you should post in sex addicts section in stead of infidelity. most of the people in infidelity are the ones being cheated on. Finding pics of my husband in my panties sending them to transvestites was one of the worst times in my life and i'm trying to deal with that. set her free... if you love her or ever loved her never let her find out seek some counseling and set her free....
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@Neednew that is a helpful post... It is unfortunate as someone who has struggled with infidelity I know it was wrong, I knew it hurtful, it didn't change the urges, it really is like an addiction, sometimes I was so in love I could never imagine cheating, other times I was so confused about my desires and sexuality and I just knew it felt great and was fun as terrible as I knew it was... The best thing to do is to decide if you want to stop... You cannot keep it going I know they always say ...they will find out eventually and you think it'll never happen but then it does and you see the pain you caused and suddenly none of the flings mattered ...it will happen eventually ...you can stop if you decide it's time to stop, you are in full control remember that and you will stop, I know it's hard especially when you are bi and you have desires your wife will never fulfill but or if you consider yourself straight and just like having sex with men as I did for years...
Just stay positive
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@Discreetbiguy I will remove the dirt bag part but i stayed with him and i tried everything to make it work and he cheated over and over and all the while i was faithful. My heart was broken but at this point it hurts but nothing he does will surprise me. I’m disgusted by him i don’t let him touch me and that is for my protection and in a few weeks i’m moving out and filing for divorce. what else can i say. his cheating ruined my marriage, my life, and my hope in men. I am going to have to work hard to get it all back. I don’t know either of you but maybe my story my pain will help you to stop cheating to own up to what you’ve done and do what is right stop and never ever let her find out but she probably will. If you cannot stop then leave… Those are your choices.
Not on patrol then? @skhc
Mine can't be writing too many tickets"...lol
Omg just tell her <3. Im pretty sure she already knows hun
@Nancyboo I had no idea with my husband he is good at leading a double life
Wait so is he gay or do you think he is
@Nancyboo I think he is gay or bi
Wat makes you think that
@Nancyboo found out he was sending pics to transvestites he was wearing my panties in them. He has also all of the sudden developed hemroids which makes me think he has been involved with that. He has had the from time to time but I’m not convinced they are from poo. He had a fissure which I wonder if it was from
Anal sex.
Your mans gay dont give him a choice just be straight forward tell him u accept him for the *** he is and you understand that he is into men me
You need to face that you are atleast bi-sexual if not homosexual. It's not hard to stop IMHO opinion from what I've seen on here so far in the short time I've been here that most of the cheaters want some one to condone or atleast make them feel better about their dishonesty, disloyalty and disrespect they have shown their spouses. I am not that type of person I grew up in a house hold where my father cheated on my mother the entire 25 years they are married and he is now married to one of the women he cheated on my mother with and guess what he's cheated on her many of times as well. If you like gay sex so much and can't stop doing it behind your wifes back then you need to end your relationship with your wife and go be in a gay relationship and let her find someone that will treat her right, it's that plain and simple, it has always been and will always been your choice on who you have sex with and who you deceive nobody else can do that for you.