I was raped last night at my prom after party by four guys, I was very drunk. I feel like it was my fault because I didn't call out for help, the whole time I was fading in and out. I don't know what to do.. I don't want to be here, I don't want to be anywhere
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You need to get the morning after pill. I have used it before it's not that bad.
@Aceland yes I did take it
Its not your fault
It's not your fault at all. Did you report it?
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@Justme092813 I didn’t report it no
I understand if u need 2 talk I'm here its nt ur fult they took advantage of ur drunken state
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@Kris3811 Hi Andiel27, I’m so sorry this happened to you… I appreciate totally how you must feel. It’s in ‘Your’ hands now… It’s also in ‘Your Time’ and ‘Your’ In ‘Control’ of the outcome too. Whatever you want to do, is ‘Up-To-You’ and, you shouldn’t be pressured in ‘Any’ way by anyone to, Report It / Go To The Authorities / Tell A Loved One / Go For Gynecological Check Up etc. Yes, I think you should do ‘All’ of those things but, first just ‘Breathe’ Take a breath and try to ‘Slow-Down-Your-Thoughts’… Right now, your mind will be going a ‘zillion-miles’ per second so… Perhaps, a good thing to do, would be, to write down anything / everything you can remember about last night… Where / When It Started To Go Wrong / Who Was Involved / What Each Person’s Involvement Was etc… Then, when you are ready to ‘Disclose’, You have a very ‘Clear Description’ of ‘Everything’ / ‘In What Order’ things happened… Those ‘Guys’ are what’s called, the ‘Dregs Of Society / The Scum Of The Earth / The Bottom Feeders Of The World’ and, even all of those words are,too good for them… But, ‘You’ have the ‘Control’ over their ‘Future’s’ now… Every One Of Them Is A Criminal… They will be scared… They will be wondering, what ‘You’ are going to do now… They mayeven be ‘Mortified’ about what they have done… Some of them perhaps, petrified… But, for-sure, all of them, when… Every Time Their Phone Rings / Every Time Their Doorbell Goes / Every Time They See The Police Near Them / Every Time Somebody In Authority Approaches Them… They are going to want i’IT’ to stay a ‘SECRET’ but, when ‘YOUR READY’, make sure you ‘Shout It From The Rooftops - To ‘All’ the ‘Right People’ who will ‘CRUSH THEM’ one-by-one… What You Never Have To Forget Is, YOU ARE THE VICTIM’… This is ‘NOT YOUR FAULT’… I know exactly how you will be feeling… I have walked in ‘Your’ shoes and, I know how ‘Confused’, ‘Degraded’, ‘Guilty’, ‘Frightened’, ‘Angry’ (although, that may not have ‘kicked-In’ yet), ‘Dirty’, ‘Petrified’, ‘Horrified’, and so, so much more… You can Private Message me anytime and talk to me on a ‘one-to-one’ basis. Perhaps, you will be able to ‘open-up-more-freely and openly’ doing it through PM’s. No Pressure at all. I’m here for you, I won’t ‘Abandon You’ and You can ‘Trust’ me totally… I don’t use those words lightly and, that’s because of what I’ve been through myself so, I know ok… I know… Sent with so much love and ‘cyber’ hugs, Trish x
If you would like you talk I can say I have been there and actually mean it. I will be of any help that I can offer
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Hi, When I was your age in high school, I went down a pretty dark path because I told no one. Eventually it caught up to me, I have had problems with alcohol and in my relationships, towards the end of high school my parents found out, and they supported, and loved me, and got me help, I am now in college and I take it one day at a time but looking back now I so wish I would of told someone sooner. I know its hard to tell someone but you need too. In order to feel sane, in order to recover, in order to gain support, to get help, and to be happy its important you let someone know what is going on and how you are feeling. If you let this bottle up, and keep it to yourself, the road will get dark, and long, and hard to handle all by your self. If you're not comfortable telling your parents, go to a school counselor, or a teacher, someone who you trust, go to someone who can reach out to your parents for you, and help you get the support you need. I know it feels awkward, and you feel ashamed but its not your fault, whether you were drunk or sober, its not your fault.
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I also supported you so we can pm if u support back
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Please report and seek help. Drinking never gives ANYONE the green light for sexual assault. Unfortunately, it is not the type of trauma that goes away with trying to block it out of your mind. You took a huge step in reaching out here. If you do decide to report it, you could be helping yourself by asserting back power that you lost in a powerless situation, helping others who have not found their voice to disclose their assaults, and potentially preventing future victims. We are here for you!
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Gang rape sucks report it .hope what goes around comes around for those guys
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@fly Those ‘Guys’ are nothing but the ‘Scum Of The Earth’ and the ‘DREGS OF SOCIETY’ and even those words are, too ‘Good’ for them… This was a despicable act of ‘COWARDLINESS’… And I totally agree with ‘Your’ comments… Sent with love, Trish x
Don't keep it bottled up. Trust me, I wish I spoke out after it happened; I'm three years down the line and its finally hit me. You're not alone, nor do you have to hide this.
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Alcohol should really be called the devil's juice, because nothing good ever comes out of getting drunk. I hope you seek help, because bottling things up will only cause self destruction. Healing starts with opening up.
@Lindakay17
I feel like some good does in fact come from getting drunk; if we’re being completely honest about it. I think that’s what makes it such an addictive substance. I’m not advocating its use at all, but I feel like these positive experiences associated with drinking is what makes alcohol so addicting.
There is evidence. If you go to the hospital then they will perform a SAARD test or "rape kit." They'll examine for bruises, tearing, seamen, and any other evidence. Seamen can live in your body for about 3 days. It's a very invasive procedure, so I understand if you don't want to do it. I'm just providing you with the information. I'm pretty sure you can also have the procedure done and not report it to the authorities. That way you can have the evidence there if or when you decide to tell someone
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I got drunk and had this happen to me also when I was in high school. I never told any adults. My classmates called me names, everyone made me out to be the one who wanted it. Some of the boys had girlfriends and they were mad at me and threatening to beat me up. I was way too embarrassed and ashamed and did feel like it was my fault. I'm now 39 and wonder how much this event in my life has affected my well being. I wish I could say report it but I completely understand why you don't want to. I would suggest getting counseling though.
The only way for you to get past this is to accept that it happened and to understand why. I understand you are feeling guilty and embarrassed, but you shouldn't. You know that drinking in excess impaired your judgement. Many people have experienced this, including myself. Take this experience and let it make you a stronger person. Don't let it ruin you. Learn from your mistake and don't let something like this ever happen to you again.